The naughty word

[Flopadop]

Please enlighten me, why shouldn't I be using the word naughty when my DD is misbehaving? Just curious and can't see the problem with it myself.

[Wisteria]

I never understood it either so carried on....

[Desiderata]

Yeah, just tell her to fuck off

[McDreamyGonagall]

I use it too. Try to say what she has done is naughty rather then she is naughty (IYSWIM) but use the word naughty.

I have a friend who would never tell her DC's she was cross with them, would always use the word upset, didn't get that!

[Wisteria]

PMSL

[McDreamyGonagall]

lol

[Tortington]

i'm liking you desi, more and more each day.

[Wisteria]

so we're supposed to destroy how many human emotions now???? My good lord it's becoming ridiculous.......shit shit, going to get on my nanny state soapbox in a minute, promised I'd have a day off!

[McDreamyGonagall]

So let me get this right, you're not in favour of the word naughty then des?

[McDreamyGonagall]

Exactly Wist! What do you say when you are upset?

[Wisteria]

You say - ooh, what are these strange moist channels running down my face - I don't understand.........

[Wisteria]

I was imagining Flash Gordon death scene then..........

[McDreamyGonagall]

[Desiderata]

I'm very much in favour of the naughty word. I was jokingly responding to the OP which said, simply, 'The naughty word.'

I disagree from the guts of my boots with this modern approach to parenting. If my kid has been naughty ... well he's been naughty. Not his misdeed, not his crime ... he has been naughty.

And I'll bloody well tell him so, too. It's called responsibility, and you're never too young to get a dose of what that's all about.

[McDreamyGonagall]

That's fair enough Des, we're all entitled to our own opinions and I very much respect other peoples approaches and am interested to hear them. That's the appeal of mumsnet for me.

I did realise that you were jokingly responding to the op and FWIW I thought it was a great reply

[Desiderata]

And I realized that you realized it after I'd posted my reply and seen your wink emoticon!!

[McDreamyGonagall]

[TheGoddessBlossom]

I never got this either - when DS1 was in nursery when I was working last year, they actually included a paragraph in their newsletter about the "naughty" word and how they didn't use it at the nursery, and therefore please could parents refrain from using it at home!! I mean FFS! I was really shocked!

I mean:

a) What right did they have to request such a thing, surely it is up to the parent what words they use when disciplining their child or discussing their behaviour with them

b) I too disagree with failing to attribute the child with responsibility for their own actions - all this saying "good job" rather than "good boy/girl" so you focus attention on the act rather than the person conductig the act - how do these children ever learn ownership of behaviour or responsbility for their own actions if they are constantly distanced from cause and effect by those educating them/bringing them up? End result is a generation of who can blame everything and everyone but themselves for their mistakes/wrongdoing.

[McDreamyGonagall]

[shocked] at your school sending a letter like that home - as you say what right do they have asking you how to speak to your child!!