Help! I think my 14mth son hates me!

[Georgiaplus1]

I don't know how to start this i think my son thinks i'm a total loser - and a boring loser at that! I work 3 days a week, we have the worlds BEST nanny 5 days a week - and my 14 month old son has started having tantrums WITH ME ONLY! If i take something away from him, he goes NUTS! He didn't use to cry unless he hurt himself but now he seems to chuck a wobbly all the time. I don't think this rainy long weekend helped as we were all bored of being indoors - but WHY WHY WHY does he seem to treat me like dirt yet thinks our nanny is the ducks nuts and cries when she leaves.

I know i'm not as much fun as our nanny but he's knocked all my confidence away and i now feel like he hates me. I know he's only 14 months and he doesn't hate me but do anyone else's kids treat their mothers like this or is it just my child.

Is he ever going to think i'm good enough to want to hang out with?

[Sugarfree]

First of all,he DOES not think you are a loser.
You are his mother therefore you are the best person to throw tantrums at because you love him unconditionally.You also set his limits and he's pushing against them,perfectly normal at 14 months,carries on til they leave home.

I have 3 boys ranging from 13.5 to 3.5 and they all have moments of hating me,sometimes on a really good day they all hate me at once.

It is hard being cooped up in the rain,get yourselves some waterproofs and wellies and try to get out at least once a day.Tedious I know but it helps.

[Sugarfree]

Oh,and he'll think you're cool enough to hang out with for about 10 minutes when he's about 4.Mind you don't miss it.

[Chugnuts]

He sounds a lot like my 14mth-old dd. Until recently she was happy if she was fed and had toys and company. She now realises that there's a lot more out there to be discovered and she's frustrated that she doesn't yet have the necessary skills to do the things she wants. It's my guess that your ds is at a similar stage.

It's supposed to be a compliment (in a strange kind of way) when your child only has tantrums with you. It means that they feel secure enough with you to know that you'll still love them even if they turn into a mini-(s)he-devil.

[DaisysGotSausageFeet]

I'm sure he doesn't hate you, and this is just a developmental phase where he is pushing the boundaries....i remember my DS doing similar at that age.

If you don't mind me asking, if you only work 3 days, why do you have the nanny for five days.....would it be wise to cut her hours to the days you work so that you and your son can spend more one on one time together. Also, if she has a softer approach than you, its natural that he should turn to her as she perhaps lets him have his way so tantrums are unneccesary with her.

Hopefully this phase will pass soon!