do you tell other people's kids off and if so what is acceptable?

[nightowl]

just another rant about ds's friend .....again. i find myself now starting to tell him off more and more. im now at the point where if i just hear his voice i start dropping things. he is making my nerves bad! i have told him numerous times to keep off the play equipment as it is broken, he ignored me so i disassembled it. he still climbs on the frame. he runs around my house doing as he pleases. he picks up tools, kitchen knives...you name it he has it. at the end of each day he starts to get hyper and teases ds mercilessly...taking his toys from him etc. he is also spiteful to ds and wont let him play when other kids are about. his mother tells him off but he just carries on regardless and she just kind of gives up and ignores it. in the last week ive told him off about 5 times for various things because he just runs riot otherwise. if he carries on is it fair to stop them playing together? i dont want to but he is affecting my sanity.

[Jimjams]

Can you not meet up elsewhere? Park/her house etc?

[Twiglett]

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[neetsmassi]

Is it not possible to treat the child exactly as you would your own and dish out same discipline? IMO it is bad for kids to see other kids getting away with behaviour that is unacceptable from the same adult - ie to be treated differently by the same adult - if your friend complains tell her that it's dangerou, rules in our house, don't want your DS doing the same whatever. Most likely your friend will either be relieved or shamed in to doing something. It's easy for me to say these things - in RL I am really bad at telling other people's kids as I don't want to appear to be an ogre - I know what to do but just don't put it in to practice (story of my life!)