This is really contentious and speculative, but

[Moomin]

Friend told me about a VERY disturbing incident that happened 2 years ago when a boy from her ds's class came to play after school one day. Won't go into too many details but this boy pulled her ds's trousers and pants down and bit his willy so hard it bled profusely. Parents acted very strangely when they were told and friend's ds said that the boy had been involved in an incident smearing his own poo on a wall at school at some point too.

They were 5 at the time of the first incident; my friend told me and another mum this the other day and was still quite shaken by it but has tried to move on and obviously has not had other boy to play again. She has spoken to the boy's mum since, at a school event and she made some very strange remarks then as well. My friend didn't think about it at the time as she was too concerned for her ds, but when she told me I had 'sexual abuse' alarm bells ringing. What do you think?

btw I have no intention of reporting this or advising my friend to bring it all back up; I don't intend to do anything really, as I only heard this 2nd hand and it was ages ago, but would you be thinking along the same lines as me for the reasons for this behaviour?

[hana]

really isn't enough information to go on I don' tthink. And it's 3rd had information at that

[NotQuiteCockney]

Hmm, I would think abuse, or SN, tbh. It could go either way.

[Moomin]

yeah you're probably right

[Moomin]

didn't even think of SN. I think the mother's comments made me think more of the abuse though - she told my friend that she would be punishing her son for what he did by giving him no hugs, he wasn't allowed to touch her because what he'd done had been so dirty. Feel sorry for the boy really.

[Twiglett]

somebody needs to tell someone at the school so that the right organisations can make sure this child is ok ... if it is a SN the school will know

remember to ask yourself the following questions

1. how do you think the child is feeling
   
2. what if you do nothing .. what might happen?
   
3. what would you want to happen if it was your child?
   
   somebody somewhere needs to take responsibility in ensuring that the relevant people are aware of 'unusual behaviour' .. if it is nothing those who are trained can find that out .. if it is something you might be saving someone

[Overrun]

Blimey, very strange, I couldn't rule out abuse, or SN.
What if he had bit it off, jesus, it must have been so painful for your friends little boy. I hope it doesn't affect him long term

[Moomin]

well as she was telling me this I was thinking I'd have taken my ds to hospital for one (she didn't) and I would imagine that a&e would have made some referrals based on the assessment. She told the school there had been a disturbing incident involving her ds and this boy but she said they didn't seem very interested. But there again i told her they might have a file as thick as anything on him already and the school can't really be very committal about another pupil to her as parent of another boy.

[Overrun]

God the bacteria in a human bite, it doesn't bear thinking of, I would have wanted him to have been looked at, and possibly be given a shot or something