Sorry to be posting again with more questions, since I took the step to post initially I haven't stopped! I just need to ask opinions on school's behaviour policy. I am totally open to people saying it is reasonable, and I have to accept discipline for him, but just want to ask. I have posted on Education boards also. 2 big incidents (amongst many many minor ones) I need advice on:
- DS teacher decided one day to divide the class in to 'naughty' and 'good' children, The idea was that the 'goods' could see how not to behave, and the 'naughties' could get some tips. Guess which group DS was in . Is this helpful/ normal? She is very reluctant for any of the less able children to be made to feel that others are cleverer than them, so why does the behavioural thing get treated differently? The kids who can hardly read don't get told 'come over here and look at Joseph (DS1, age 6) reading a Year 5 book, isn't he clever compared to you!!
- I have posted previously about DS kicking a playtime assistant. I KNOW (and he now knows) it was very wrong, but was triggered by a scenario that I had told the school in his IEP/ School Action would be problematic for him. Anyway.... he tells me yesterday that he 'picked Henry' for his special staying in friend today. Hey???? I then glean that since the kicking incident (2 weeks ago) he has not been allowed out for a single playtime, and has to choose a friend to stay in with him. I knew absolutely NOTHING about this. Do you think I should know? Is it a helpful/ fair length of punishment? What about the 'picked' child, don't think I would be wildly happy if I was there parent! He has been trying so hard to be good, and I have noticed marked improvements, but he doesn't seem to be rewarded in any way for these efforts.
I feel like I am going mad, and it is just me sat there fighting his corner against the world. His words to me ' they are trying to kill me at school'.