Ok, we were never a 'co-sleeping' family. Not our thing. We have always encouraged our children to sleep in their own beds.
Illness/bad dreams etc always allowed to come in for a cuddle but usually we would put them back.
Anyway, as some know, DH has been working overseas since September. The long and very boring saga of why we are still not in Australia with him I will not go into now
DS has suffered greatly from this separation from his Dad. From long bouts of terrible behaviour to all fine to many tears to all fine to bad behaviour again. Very up and down and I think DH and I are dealing with it the best we can (supportive, kind but firm blah blah)
The problem is that every other Sunday (when we say goodbye to DH) DS flips out ... scared of going to bed, crying for his dad, naughty, destructive ... general testing. So usually, on that Sunday night he sleeps with me ... eventually after much toing and froing I give in and in he comes.
Sometimes next night he is back in his room, sometimes it takes a couple of nights.
But this time he has been in with me for a week now. He is sleeping really well, going to bed happy, not waking too early (which was always a problem even before DH went away) ... he is settled and seems more chilled.
Do I make him go to his own bed? Do I let him stay? I am ok with him staying (considering he is more happy and settled) but what if this backfires? Can it backfire? If so how?
I dunno, if you have read this far I thank you. I forgive you if you have switched off.
Don't know what I am asking really .... it has been a tough 6 months
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Can't get 7 year old back to his own bed.
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ghosty · 25/02/2007 22:54
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