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3 month old responding to sounds

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user1484999658 · 21/01/2017 13:03

Hi all i tried to post earlier and not sure if it worked or not so appologies if this is a double thread. I have a 12 week old son, he is almost 13 weeks and i am starting to worry as he does not seem to turn his head to the source of any sound, when im in his line of sight and talking to him he looks at me, smiles coos ect, if i move around the room while i have his attention he will follow me with his eyes, but when im at his side out of his line of aight and i clap, sing make noises ect, or have a toy that plays music for eg , he doea not turn his head to see the source of the sound. I know im maybe worrying a little early on about this, but my 4 year old daughter has autism ( she is my first born), and now i worry that this may be an early indication with my son, as some mums will know not responding to sounds out of sight can be a big indicator of something not being quite right, he has had his hearing tests at birth and all was fine, am i worrying too soon ? As i said my 4 year old is autistic so her development, although it was delayed it was the norm for me, if anyone can offer any advice/ info on their experiences with their own childrens development , or what age babies start to respond to sound in that way i would really appreciate it , thanks x

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user1477282676 · 22/01/2017 06:09

Sorry you're worried. It IS more worrying for you as you've been there and done that in terms of discovering a difference with your first child.

Remember that you will be hyper alert to his development and that you could be seeing issues where there are none...though I'm sure you're aware that having one child with Autism does increase the chances of a second....you should at this point do your best to enjoy your baby and though you may want to voice your concerns to your HV or GP, it's a bit too early to tell.

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user1471520545 · 22/01/2017 06:17

I think that is normal. I think our son only started to turn towards sounds at around that age so I would leave it for a month or so to see if things change.

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montermum · 12/04/2021 12:41

any updates hun?

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KylaKins · 05/05/2022 22:31

@user1484999658 hi there, how did this turn out for you? I am experiencing the sand with my 12 week old baby. Thank you

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user1484999658 · 06/05/2022 01:45

Hi ☺️ my son is now 5 and I'll is fine with him . I think I was on such high alert for every little thing I didn't know to look for before.. if I'm being honest I don't even remember writing this post LOL. Shows how much I was over thinking everything . But as a parent that's what we do ! He done other things that concerned me along the way also..like grasping his hands like he was on a motorbike when certain songs came on ( I convinced myself he was stimming). I do still worry about small things to this day . But he has alot of "learned behaviour" from his sister ( she is his normal . And being stuck at home during COVID she was his main source of play). Aside from that I know now I was bring completely "paranoid" (according to everyone 😂). Really hope all works out for you ! You may well be doing the same as me but no amount of words from me will stop the it's and bits inside your head..only time will tell..best advice I can give is to try and enjoy it and let it come as it does..I feel I spent so much time worrying I didn't enjoy that baby stage as much as I was just looking out for every wee sign . ...what will be will be 💓

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KylaKins · 06/05/2022 07:35

@user1484999658 thank you so much for taking the time to respond to this. I am really happy to hear that all is well with your little boy. The way you described his behaviour in your OP was exactly how I'd describe my 12 week old. I could have written that post. Like you, I worry about every small thing because my husband's nephew has Level 3 autism so I am hyper alert. I also had some medically traumatising issues and a diagnosis of a cancer gene in 2019 so I unfortunately catastrophise about everything now. Your reply has put my min at ease.
I hope your daughter is doing well also.

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user1484999658 · 06/05/2022 17:20

Awe no problem at all..my mind still does overtime on it ! But I think I've learned to just take it as it comes now. He was also quite a late talker so that worried me too . You've just got to remember they are all different and do it at their own pace ..lots of luck for your family x