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9 YEAR OLD BEING QUITE EVIL

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tappy · 23/02/2007 23:41

my 9 year old daughter has always been quite cheeky but recently she is been really hurt ful to others and it is really hard to hear.she isnt hittin them just saying awful things.I am amazed as i consider myself as a nice person and feel i have brought her up to be. it is getting me down

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mufti · 24/02/2007 08:51

just a thought, is there a possibility she is getting bullied ? sometimes thats how they react, by then taking it out on someone else.

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tappy · 24/02/2007 13:43

hi ive looked into that while i was having sympathy with her but now it seems to be running out but thanks

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mufti · 24/02/2007 16:38

or , got in with some new friend(s) , who may not be a good influence?

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juuule · 24/02/2007 16:55

Have you asked her why she is doing what she does?

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chel86 · 26/02/2007 13:42

Hi tappy,

I sympathise. My 8 year old DD has suddenly become rude, disrespectful and quite spiteful to others. Calling a close family friend's son (they've grown up with each other) fat, reduced a girl to tears when she said she had monkey legs because they were really hairy, etc. She's not physically abusive, although we have only last week learnt that she had some girl up against the wall at school, so I'm concerned the behaviour has escalated. She used to be such a lovely girl, but now she's losing friends and even the people she has grown up with are starting the avoid her.

I've tried explaining to her the affect her behaviour is having on both her and other people, but she doesn't seem to care. She's now started talking to her brother like he's something on the bottom of her shoe, which he gets upset with, but now he is starting to talk back to her in the same manner. So now it's starting to affect their relationship and they used to get on so well.

I've rambled on and haven't helped at all have I?! But you're not alone. I don't know if it's a phase they go through as they start to grow up, whether my DSD is trying to be the centre of attention all the time but doesn't understand that she can't be and is going about it all the wrong way, or what. But I'm concerned that if she doesn't snap out of it soon it might have a huge affect on her teenage years.

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tappy · 26/02/2007 17:33

thanks chel86 i am also worried about what affect this will have on her teenage years. but your daughter sounds just like mine. yesterday a friend she has been friends with for years wanted to play with her and she said to me i am not playing with her as she smells and i cant stand it. i was shocked and explained what it would feel like if someone said that about you. but she doesnt seem to take it in.