4yo extremely clingy and aggressive on school days

[Mummy2aRockstar]

Apologies for a waffling post but I need to give you some back story. My 4 year old son started primary school back in September, he started with a lot of his friends from nursery and for the first few weeks struggled to settle. He fell out several times with his friends and went through a period of wetting himself daily.

The friend problems weren't such an issue, after all he is only 4 and we went back to basics with the toilet training and that seemed to sort it out.
After a shaky start my ds starting loving school, especially reading and all was well, until he started getting aggressive on school days especially when I picked him up.
It got worse as the term when on and I put it down to him being tired and that it would settle over the Christmas break.

It did settle and he was back to being my happy go lucky little boy but he had become very clingy with me to the point of having a melt down if anyone else did something for him or tried to help.

He went back to school last Wednesday and for those three days he was lovely to pick up, running out the door and giving me a big hug then telling me all about his day. This week however the aggression is back worse than before, he refuses to get up, dressed or get ready to leave, once were finally out the door he has a massive attitude whenever I speak to him, tries to pull me back or pull me over, whacks my hand to let him go and gets in my face. This mornings melt down lasted over 2 hours from getting him out of bed to being head butted as I tried to kiss him goodbye (an accident as he was flailing around in a tantrum).

He knows his behaviour is wrong and I pull him up on it as I would any other time he misbehaved. His dad works shifts but takes him to school when he can and has no problems, however he has seen the aggression aimed towards me as I'm sure he thought I was exaggerating.

We have tried talking to ds about school and if anything is bothering him but he says he likes school and plays with lots of different children.

Again sorry for waffling but I'm at my wits end and dredding picking my own child up later. Any tips or help would be massively appreciated.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Could he just be tired? What time is he going to bed?

[Mummy2aRockstar]

He goes to bed at 7pm and I have to wake him at 8am, he is tired after school but surely that would mean he's aggressive and moody with everyone and not just me.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Often it will be their DM who they behave like this with. I'd try him with an earlier bedtime for a bit.