Worried my daughter has dyspraxia

[Qwertie]

My DD (nearly 6) broke down last night after a really hard week. She is in year 1. She is really struggling with reading and writing and has done all through nursery & reception. She is not a popular girl, although it does not seem that anyone dislikes her. She has had 1 party invitation since the start of reception. She is very kind and worried about classmates if they are off sick (teacher's observation). Her speech was delayed, although I could not get any help, because it was not quite bad enough and the criteria has apparently become much stricter in the last few years (speech therapist's observation). She has been referred to audiology a year ago and no issues, I have taken her to 2 opticians and both agreed that her sight is good. She has bad coordination; was late jumping, struggles to hop, cannot run up and down stairs (her 3 year old brother does). She has also had 3 choking incidents that have needed my intervention (her 2 brothers have not had any). She was crying because she "can't get her letters the right way round" and cannot do the word searches they have been doing this week. My husband thinks she is fine and she just has different skills to others (her concentration with Lego & construction toys is really good). Her emotional intelligence is brilliant; she can pick up on tiny nuances when speaking to people and read how they are feeling.
I'm worried about talking to the school and mentioning any labels (DH thinks we shouldn't) in case it would actually be detrimental to her happiness at school.
I would really appreciate some advice.

[Qwertie]

Sorry, she "could not get her numbers the right way round" -and she cannot write a sentence.

[PrincessHairyMclary]

if she is labelled as being dyspraxic then the school will be able to put in strategies to support her. There will be more understanding as she moves through the school system instead of every teacher possibly just thinking she's "lazy" until they get to know her.

When she moves up to high school and starts doing practicals in science for example teachers will know to keep an eye out for potential issues related to the clumsiness/ motor skill difficulties (burning herself on Bunsen burners etc) and when she gets to her GCSE years she may be assessed for extra time and writing breaks etc.

[PrincessHairyMclary]

Many students in my school use coloured overlays to help them read as they struggle with black on white and write on coloured paper. You can buy overlays quite cheaply online if you want to try them at home but diagnosis often has to be done with a dyslexic specialist as opticians don't test for it.

[LIZS]

She sounds pretty unhappy already and that will only worsen if her progress is slower than others. You can go to gp with your concerns initially as OT will help with some of her physical and processing difficulties.

[Qwertie]

Yes you're right. However, up until now she hasn't got upset about being behind and has managed day to day, albeit at near the bottom of the class. The worry about her being taken off in a group with others with diagnoses and the social isolation that would cause. It has reached the point though that she is socially isolated and separated. The idea that it might be dyspraxia has only come to me in the last day; I have been trying to get help for years with speech and have ruled out sight and hearing problems. I will speak to her teachers. My DH is worried, because he had/has the same problems, but is now very successful in a career and managed a first class engineering degree, without any official help along the way. He had similar problems at school. I think he worries that he may not have achieved what he has with a label or extra help. I think I need to reassure him that he may have achieved it sooner and without so much of a struggle if he had. I suppose I do share my husband's concerns. I want to be reassured really that I won't make things worse for her by making a bit of a fuss IYKWIM