Nobody to get excited about my girls' achievements with

(5 Posts)
FlyingCat Mon 21-Nov-16 14:12:14

So I have two girls, one is nearly 5 and in reception, the other is 5 months. Both are developing normally, ahead in some ways behind in others and up and down behaviourwise.

We have no living grandparents, my brother and cousins are either not people we see very often or have small kids of similar ages, and most of my friends are through school or nursery and also have kids of the same ages.

So, other than DH, who is interested and proud the first time of telling but then moves on, when one of my girls does something I'm proud of I feel like anybody I'm sufficiently close to to care is going to think I'm bragging and comparing to their own children - I'm not, I really am just excited and proud of mine.

I have loads of support for if things are going badly but wish I had some other people who I could share all the great stuff with. TBH I just really miss my mum for sharing stuff like this.

It's the small things really like when littlest sat up unsupported for the first time, or when biggest stopped at the window of the butchers shop because she wanted to sound out all the letters on the window sign.

So I suppose what I'm saying is they are my precious first and second born but nobody cares - and that makes me sad.

Am I the only one

BackforGood Mon 21-Nov-16 18:56:50

We moved into our current house at the same time as my Dad died (which was a year after my Mum died) and my dc were 7,4, and 1.
Over the years we have become really good friends with elderly neighbours, who have absolutely loved being part of my dcs' lives, as they grew up. My dc would go over and tell them if they got a certificate in school, or if their tooth was wobbly, or if they had a turn at bringing the class teddy home from Nursery and so forth. It was fab for me, fab for my dc, and fab for my neighbours too.
Might someone like that be a possibility for you to make friends with?
If you don't have a neighbour like that, there are lots of befriending schemes you could join.

monkeytree Tue 22-Nov-16 09:25:27

Yes, I am in the same boat too, no grandparents etc. My daughter recently passed her grammar test and I was bursting with pride and didn't have anyone really to tell. Two close friends but had to be careful as one had passed the 11+ but didn't get a place and dd was one of only two girls to pass in her class. I ended up telling really random people, people behind the supermarket checkout etc. Yes have got good neighbours and told them too. Then of course there's mumsnet. I think I wrote on here how none of the other mums were saying well done at school and some of the advice was to share the good news within the family instead, well I don't have much family to do that with. I know exactly what you mean and yes people tend to want to swarm around more when it's bad news for some reason. Not much help I'm afraid but wanted you to know that you are not alone.

kittytom Tue 22-Nov-16 21:04:15

Aw OP your post really touched me.

Have you thought about writing a blog? I write one, I only have two followers but it is very therapeutic and I can say everything I would love to tell everyone in the world about my amazing kids smile

I think you have probably hit the nail on the head that you are missing your mum flowers

I also agree that there is probably a lovely neighbour nearby who would be delighted to get to know your kids. I had several grown up neighbour friends when I was little.

EsmesBees Tue 22-Nov-16 21:12:07

I know exactly what you mean OP. This is one thing I really miss about my mum too. She was the only one as interested in the minute details of dd's life as I am. Please feel free to tell a complete stranger about your girls if that would help.

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