Baby constantly crying!

[butterfly92]

I am really getting so low and depressed over it. My son is 2 weeks old and I understand babies cry but my god surely not the way my son does!! Whenever i take him out, he starts getting very unsettled and cries even though i changed his bum and fed him beforehand plus he takes infacol due to wind which does the trick as he trumps burps and poos regularly so i know its not constipation or anything like that. We put him down to sleep when he is tired then he starts wiggling around and cries again. Its worse in the evening i dread it because i know im going to have a battle on my hands trying to get him to settle :( my oh also tries but nothing works. Im so worried that i may be doing something wrong! Breastfeeding is not doable because of his jaw shape he is unable to latch so i am expressing but not enough , therefore i have to supplement with formula which i feel so guilty about because i know that it can cause issues with his tummy etc :( he seems in pain and everything i do does not settle him!! My oh was thinking about taking him to a&e due to him constantly crying. Today he has now been vomiting up his milk (not all just a bit). What on earth am i doing wrong i honestly dont think im cut out for motherhood!

[CupofTeaTime]

Have you mentioned this to a HV or GP? The constant crying and now the vomiting would make me think a stomach issue. I'd get him checked out

[butterfly92]

Not yet he isnt always sicky at all i noticed he has been since giving him infacol but if i stop it he is going to suffer again. :(

[CupofTeaTime]

My DS (who is now 4) was very similar to what you're describing, infacol did nothing to help. The only thing that worked to ease his discomfort and therefore the crying was switching to Dr Brown's bottles. They are amazing at stopping trapped wind and colic. I'm no expert but I'd guess your DS has colic. The bottles aren't cheap but perhaps you could just buy one and see if it helps any?

[CupofTeaTime]

Also, don't worry about formula causing tummy issues, it rarely does and you can buy the 'comfort' formula if necessary. My DS was exclusively formula fed and once we switched to the Dr Browns we had no more issues

[ineedwine99]

Could it be a reflux issue if he's being a bit sick? Worth asking the HV/GP. My baby wasn't this bad but did have days like it, she now has infant gaviscon in her formula and so far it's been great (we tried a prescription milk first to see if it was a lactose intolerance but that didn't help at all)
I read somewhere infacol can make reflux worse as can bring up a bit of stomach acid with the burps. If it is reflux lift the head end of the cot/Moses basket too as that helps keep any acid down. Good luck and hope he feels better soon.

[TryingtobePrepared]

Sounds like dd1 with reflux although the silent non vomiting variety so harder to spot. If he's ever sick does it smell slightly sour or look a little curdled both good indicators of reflux. Dd1 screamed if we laid her down happy as Larry asleep on someone and vertical, bit better when we raised the head end of her mattress slightly which helped. I think we used a rolled up towel. Whatever it is try and keep a reply good note of when he's content and when he cries for a couple of days and show the HV & gp see what they think. Good luck its really tough at the time 💐

[llangennith]

The first few weeks are tough even without the constant crying. Don't feel guilty about giving baby formula. Yes breast is better but millions of babies have thrived on formula with no lasting damage

[Feedmewine22]

please stop being so hard on yourself!

Obviously get him checked by a doc, just in case there is an underlying cause. I know it might not be much comfort now, but Some babies just cry a lot. My dd was the same as your son and I felt the same as you. But trust me it does get better fairly quickly.

Also please don't feel bad about using formula, you are doing an amazing job expressing- it must be such hard work to do that and look after a screamy baby. Formula is not a bad thing, the most important thing is your son is fed and loved, and it sounds like he most definitely is.

Look after yourself

[Wolfiefan]

When you take him out he cries? Is he lying flat in a pram. Could that be uncomfortable, boring or he feels too far from you? Have you tried a sling?
When he's put down to sleep is he actually overtired? My DS would fling himself about when really tired and I actually swaddled him in the early weeks.
Evenings were bad with DS (but he was older) when he had colic.