My ds is a very bright 10 year old but has very poor interpersonal skills. We wondered from a very young age whether he had Aspergers as he seemed to have a lot of traits including obsessions. However he did improve and by the time he was 4 or 5 we did an online Aspergers scoring thingy and he was off the bottom of the scale. However social abilities have not come naturally to him, we had to teach him (and still constantly remind him) to look at peoples eyes when he talks to them, to answer people if they talk to him (often he apparently can't be bothered!!) etc.
He was quite deaf until he was 7, but lipread so excellently that until we paid privately for a hearing test no one beleived us as his speech and schoolwork was so good. After grommets his hearing was perfect but the improvement in interpersonal skills that we had hoped for didn't happen.
He has 2 close schoolfriends but what i fear for is his future if he doesn't behave more normally.
His current obsession is the playstation (aaargh why did I ever get one) although he is only allowed to play on it at weekends for a few hours, usually from when he wakes at 6 to when the rest of the house wake up at around 8, then maybe an hour later in the day, it is ALL he talks about, and endlessly!!! He obviously thinks about it all the time. I have thought about banning it totally but that seems mean, as his friends have them as well...but they aren't obsessed like him.
He just hasn't talked about anything else for about a year now, and I am worried. He doesn't know how to cope with meeting people, he just behaves stupidly which he thinks impresses them, though we have tried to explain it is like talking to a wall!!
Any ideas as to how to teach him? Can you teach these things or is it just innate?
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ds age 10 poor social skills....help needed
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prune · 13/06/2004 18:53
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