At my wits end with moody son!

(4 Posts)
reddotmum Mon 10-Oct-16 18:55:29

My youngest (of 4) is really worrying me at the minute. He started primary one recently and consistently told me he was being bullied and so convincing was he that I went and spoke to the teacher. (A parent approached me in the playground to tell me her daughter had noticed DS being bullied in playground so I know something was happening!) she said she would keep and eye and at the same time told me he was not mixing well with other kids. Choosing activities he could do himself. He constantly talks about being picked on and tells me no one likes him. Outside school he goes to Football lessons and tonight he refused to play because a girl had taken the ball he was playing with. No amount of talking could persuade him back in the room so he ended up sitting on his own at the side and I brought him straight home with no treats as I was so cross with him.

My third son has Autism and I think as they are very close in age the youngest has some learned behaviour. He also looses his temper very easily and no amount of talking or persuasion will talk him down. I just don't know where to start! Is it acceptable to speak with his teacher about how to deal with this behaviour.

reddotmum Mon 10-Oct-16 19:04:59

I wondered even is there a book I could buy to help me.

user1476140278 Tue 11-Oct-16 00:39:41

Firstly, I can't fathom why you punished him for not wanting to play. That's so wrong that I do feel the need to point it out to you. He was obviously feeling some anxiety and given his history, I'd have thought some sensitivity might have been a good idea.

4 is still very young, some children are just slower to learn good social habits...such as being brave or coping when another child takes something from them.

Your starting point needs to be a meeting with his teacher who is in a position to see his daily social skills from a unique place.

reddotmum Tue 11-Oct-16 09:36:19

I punished him because he was rude to the coach who tried to encourage him to play and because his behaviour was unacceptable in that he was hitting his sister when she tried to sit beside him. (Sorry don't want to drop feed)

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