Hi all, <br><br>I am in my early 50s married with a 25 year old son. My husband is not my sons dad but I have been married ten years<br><br>My son suffers from depression, but does seem SLOWLY on the mend <br><br>Due to a bout of depression (lost a job, flat, etc) , my son has recently moved back in with us - and I am really struggling with it. I feel like I am literally crawling with anxieties about being forced to live a lifestyle I do not want. we are walking on egg shells around our own home and feel awkward and uncomfortable with a moody adult living in our home .<br><br> for example -If we ask him to bring down the plates in his bedroom, it is a '''big discussion''' as he will say he feels it is unfair and feels picked on, so end up spending entire evenings explain why we do not want half the dishes up in his bedroom smeared with food, so we literally are walking on eggshells, it is like it is HIS house. This whole victim mentality BS drives me MENTAL. it literally makes me squirm<br><br>There is literally something every day. Something small turns into something big <br><br>In short, having my 25 yo son living at home with me is not the lifestyle I imagined for myself. His depression brings the household down in mood and day in day out its hard work to say the least<br><br>I am on anti anxiety medication due to all of this as I feel I have failed him and am not strong enough to take on his problems . <br><br>He DOES need some support and we have said he can stay 3 months rent free - in order to save up and has been given a deadline in which to move out which, I believe, will suit us all. However even three months feels like forever when you are gut churningly panic attackingly anxious all day long about the outcome <br><br> However, I believe there is a real possibility at the end of the three month period that he will have saved nothing and then we will be guilt tripped into having him stay. and to be honest the thought of being stuck in such a negative situation makes me feel desperate. <br><br> Honestly though I do know this sounds heartless, and I know a lot of it is MY ANXIETY issue not my son, a stronger person could do this. <br><br>What do people think about asking him to leave after 3 months? Is that unreasonable? What if he has saved nothing in those months?