help with 3 yr old

(5 Posts)
mumtotwonow Thu 29-Sep-16 15:16:41

Hi all this is my first post
and its more probably to vent or wallow but also if anyone has any pointers
my first child 3 next month,i am guilty of babying me and my partner both see him as our little baby still and so when he struggles to complete a task we have both been guilty of doing it rather than guiding him into doing it for himself. He is now in speech therapy and we are working on his attention, he seems to get distracted so easily and it can be hard to get him to complete certain tasks without having to ask many times and then changing the tone to a firm one.
He is a really affectionate loving boy and i couldnt ask for a sweeter child hes kind to animals and other children and hes always happy, i keep saying to myself its not like hes got heath problems things could be alot worse and this is not the end of the world, but i cant help feeling rubbish when ive left him at nursery and im all too aware hiw behind he is due to me babying him. Im trying now to get him to ie take his own coat off and we are potty training its taking long and i just wondered if any parents have any tips i could encourage him to do things himself thankyou x

DollyBarton Thu 29-Sep-16 15:28:21

None of the things you describe sound abnormal for a just 3 year old! My almost 4 year old is a total pain to get to do stuff like dress himself (mostly I end up doing it as he whinges and exaggeratedly falls over saying he can't), put stuff in the bin, ignores instruction unless I change to strict voice etc. His speech being behind is unlikely anything to do with you babying him, some kids are just a both slower to speak!

DollyBarton Thu 29-Sep-16 15:28:58

And I know plenty of 3 year olds still being potty trained!

Frusso Thu 29-Sep-16 15:48:30

how do you feel he is behind?
easily distracted, unclear at times speech, not potty trained, uninterested in tasks, and would rather you did everything for him, is all pretty normal for a nearly 3yo boy.

my ds is 3yrs 4 mths, has the attention span of a gnat, deliberately ignores people unless they mention a key word sweets/icecream/park, has only just started potty training, and sometimes i have no idea what he's trying to say, and he would quite happily let me do everything for him including feeding him, and putting his shoes and coat on (which he can do at cm house). and he is totally average for his age.

mumtotwonow Thu 29-Sep-16 16:04:09

Thanks all of you that has really made me feel alot better, and besides his speech i guess hes doing ok then and hell get there thankyou all very much for reassurinf me nothing to wprry about ;) x

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