attention and independance

[mumtotwonow]

Hi all this is my first post
and its more probably to vent or wallow but also would like to know if anyone has any pointers
my first child i am guilty of babying me and my partner both see him as our little baby still and so when he struggles to complete a task we have both been guilty of doing it rather than guiding him into doing it for himself. He is now in speech therapy and we are working on his attention, he seems to get distracted so easily and it can be hard to get him to complete certain tasks without having to ask many times and then changing the tone to a firm one.
He is a really affectionate loving boy and i couldnt ask for a sweeter child hes kind to animals and other children and hes always happy, i keep saying to myself its not like hes got heath problems things could be alot worse and this is not the end of the world, but i cant help feeling rubbish when ive left him at nursery and im all too aware hiw behind he is due to me babying him. Im trying now to get him to ie take his own coat off and we are potty training its taking long and i just wondered if any parents have any tips i could encourage him to do things himself, where i have intervened before he tends to give up or get frustrated and say mummy do it, anyone tips thanks for reading my long vent x

[crispandcheesesanwichplease]

You need to tell us his age OP. No-one can comment on his level of dependence/independence without knowing how old he is.

[mumtotwonow]

Thabkyou crisp i have posted again under 3 years old and will delet this one once ive seen uve seen my reply thankyou:)

[crispandcheesesanwichplease]

OK, thanks for letting me know mum. Best of luck.