I'm feeling really low this evening after yet another difficult day with my DS who is almost 9. I feel like I am constantly moaning at him due to his behaviour. He is selfish, thinks of no-one else but himself, is mean to his little sister and is rude & unhelpful to me. He can be nice & there are no issues at all at school. He wouldn't dare speak to his teacher the way he talks to me!
I feel like we've been too soft bringing him up and this is now the result. He doesn't respect us, he moans if I ask him to do the slightest little thing to help & won't do it for e.g if he didn't put it there, or it's not his cup, plate etc..
He has no respect for me being the grown up, so if I say to go his room or turn off the tv etc he just says no. I then have to countdown to another threat of punishment to make him do it.
I am exhausted with it and actually feel like I'm starting to resent him. I feel like I've failed massively as a mother that he doesn't show even basic manners or respect in our house.
I work part time everyday and am home to pick him and dd up from school but recently I've felt like just sending him to the after school club which he would hate. He doesn't appreciate a single thing in this family and I'm at the end of my tether with it, I just don't know what to do.
I have a chronic health condition and some days I struggle to even get a meal on the table, then when I do I get moaned at - all he wants to eat is pasta & pizza. My condition tires me out and hurts my joints and this added stress doesn't help at all.
Please can anyone advise anything I & DH can do to improve this situation? DH is away this weekend and I'm sat here crying after another shit day feeling that I have no relationship with my son, who I do love dearly.
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Please can anyone help - I feel like my relationship with my 8 yr old DS is breaking down
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Trickymoments · 24/09/2016 19:53
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