I've never posted here before so excuse me if I don't use the right terms etc. DS1 is almost five and started school. He's loving it and seems to be picking up everything quickly and he has lots of friends and so on. But it's all overshadowed by the fact that he's never been successfully toilet trained and I'm out of ideas. I've done everything the doctors and health visitors have advised. I've been patient, I've not made a fuss, I've rewarded him, I've gave stickers and star charts. Then I've lost patience and I've shouted, I've tried to talk calmly as he's a smart boy and there seems to be no good reason for him to just not bother going to the toilet, and even now his little brother (age 2) is fully toilet trained and it makes no difference. He's been given medicine to improve bowel movements and I nag him to drink more (upon the advice of HV). He doesn't care that he's wet and he always has something better to do than go to the toilet. It's beginning to rule our life. If my husband asks how his day has been I tell him in terms of how many accidents he's had. He's been mostly ok at school but I know he's been dribbling as his pants and trousers smell when he comes home. I want to see a specialist as I feel he has no bladder control but they said that it's a toilet training issue until he's a bit older and then they will accept there might be something else. It's been 2 years and I feel like I've had no proper support only comments like "you obviously started him too soon" so that's overall very unhelpful at this stage. I'm becoming so frustrated and cross with him because he is a smart boy and now I feel that me being upset by it has contributed to the fact that he doesn't tell me when he needs or if he's had an accident but even when I gently suggest he goes to the toilet (when he's holding himself and dancing about) he always refuses, wets himself and turns it into a big deal. Please, if anyone can suggest anything other than another star chart?! Sorry for a long rant!
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