Hi everyone!
I've posted a few times about my almost 4 year old ... He's really really challenging me every single day. I just feel like I need to write what an average day is like for us and if you can let me know your honest opinion of whether I need to seek some kind of help for him with a behavioural disorder or whether this is some kind of 'normal' ( can't see how it can be but he's my 1st so who knows ).
The day usually goes something like this or near abouts .
He sleeps very well and gets about 12 hours a night .
He wakes about 7 am and comes in and stomps as loud as he can to wake his little sister up ... Starts screaming at the top of his lungs doing fake laughing and loud roaring like a lion.
I then ask him to come downstairs with me as his sister is still sleeping he will
Shout 'no I'm not coming with you ' and refuse to move . Then he will scream and scream and wakes his sister
8am : we have breakfast he will refuse anything I offer and tell me he hates breakfast and everything about it . He doesn't like to eat and doesn't like breakfast apparently . After about an hour of insisting on various things other than what he's got for breakfast he reluctantly eats whilst pouting and sulking .
He will annoy his sister and take stuff off of her and generally annoy her on purpose . He then will refuse to stop when I ask nicely regardless of how I try ( I have tried everything time out/ time in/ alone Time just him / even tried ignoring bad behaviour and praising good - nothing works ).
Sister has a nap and he then demands to go on the iPad . He has about an hour on it and then tells me 'go away smelly ' if I tell
Him it's time to come off - he will thn scream and tantrum when I put it away and wakes his sister usually unless I just let him stay on the iPad !
If we have plans for the day I will let him know and he usually tells me he doesn't want to do that or that's boring or that's silly or he 'hates it '. Once we meet with friends somewhere if we have plans he will sulk and pout for no reason what so ever - will refuse to talk to people and is rude if he does... Annoys other kids we meet on purpose and winds them up telling them he's 'the winner ' ' they are the losers ' he will constantly say stuff to get reactions and always initiates arguments such as : if somebody says 'it's sunny today ' he will insist it's not .. And says the opposite of what anybody says .
Home time - he will refuse to leave even though all he has done is complain about being at the 'boring place' that he 'hates ' screams the whole way home throwing stuff spitting calling names etc .
Dinner time - refuses to eat. Shouts if i ask him too and tells me ' I won't eat this I don't like it and I'm not going to eat it at all '
Bed time and bath time etc usually involves various tantrums about everything too
This is obviously a bad day- we sometimes have less severe days but he is so negative and sulky just to get a reaction. He rarely just enjoys an activity or day out he has to gain control of everyone and everything by sulking and screaming and shouting all the time .
I just can't believe this could be 'normal'
He has a good life . Me and his dad try so hard and nothing major has happened in his life at all to make him 'stressed' .
I find it hard to be around children at the moment as all he does is try and start arguments with them . He's genuinely like a moody hormonal teenager .
I'm
So drained
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End of my tether with my moody / defiant almost 4 year old
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user1464795209 · 01/09/2016 10:32
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