Hi all,
I'm not absolutely sure what I hope to get out of posting on here but as a seasoned lurker who has seen how utterly lovely you all are at offering reassurance, advice and support to those who desperately need it, I thought it can't hurt. I'm feeling pretty emotional and exhausted with anxiety so please bear with me - I may ramble as this is giving me a bit of an outlet!
My first experience of motherhood has been completely ruined by a mixture of ante and postnatal depression (undiagnosed) and relentless anxiety which I have had all my adult life but has it increased to an unbearable level since giving birth to my beautiful DS. He is a gorgeous little chap, bright as a button, happy and in possession of a fantastic sense of humour. But he is a slow developer and that is making life a living hell for me.
DS is 9mo, has always been a terrific sleeper, was lifting his head at a couple of days old, is good at eye contact, smiles at both familiar and strange faces, can sit unaided (from 7 months), engages with toys, responds to his name, can pick food up and bring to his mouth, can bear weight on his legs, etc. Oh, and today he pulled himself up from sitting on my lap to standing by holding onto the side of the coffee table.
However, crawling seems to be something he is not interested in. On his tummy he will do push ups (so will straighten his arms) but his knees remain flat on the floor. He despises tummy time although on good days we can get to around 30 minutes of him being on his front. Instead he seems to enjoy bum shuffling but apparently this is not a good thing? I have read things such as that this can be a sign of dyspraxia, dyslexia and even autism, so naturally I'm now frantic and panicking. He also doesn't really roll (he will shift far over onto his side but not often the whole way over) and is not babbling (no dada, mama, baba, etc), although he does make sounds. He also doesn't wave or mimic, apart from when I bang my hand on the floor which he will then do as he finds it hilarious!
Most of the babies from my NCT group or those of a similar age I have seen at baby groups have accomplished at least one of the skills my DS hasn't and it is making me miserable. I know you shouldn't compare and that it isn't a competition, but I feel so down that my baby is always lagging behind everyone else. My DH is supportive but he gets impatient with my constant fretting and doesn't think that anything is wrong. I just feel like I'm carrying this all on my own, that DS's development, or lack of in certain areas, is my fault and responsibility. Basically, I feel like a failure. I get no help from family or friends so feel very alone.
Has anyone else had any experience of feeling sick with worry at their DC's development but it's all turned out to be ok? Did you have a bum shuffler? Is there anything I can do to encourage crawling apart from tempting him with toys placed at a distance?
Thanks so much in advance and so sorry for the long post.
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Need a hand hold and reassurance - not enjoying motherhood and terrified abdout DS's development
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Lilyofthevale · 31/08/2016 20:46
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