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Wild 2 year old. Help.

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keepingmum1 · 30/08/2016 17:21

My 27 month old is wild, not so much from tantrums, but from running away, constant saying no, refusal to keep still or really be tamed in anyway and constant pinching and punching. Every single conceivable daily task is met with no and a struggle to complete. He hits, pinches and punches me on a daily basis. I have scratches and bruises all over the top half of my body. We use the naughty step on a very consistent basis but he's not improving. I'm so fed up with people telling me it's a stage and he's a boy. I feel like I'm failing him and need some help. Aside from this, he's a lovely, caring boy and without trying to sound like I'm bragging he's very bright. It shocks me sometimes just how bright he is, he has now a handful of French words from our holiday. I am only telling you this so that I give a clear picture of the issues we're having. We enjoy so many different activities, yet I've also wondered if he's doing all this because he's bored. I don't see how he can be, as we read and play so much at home, but maybe I need different activities? It's driving a wedge between my husband and I as our son is so much more challenging with me. My husband seems to struggle with the idea that I'm struggling with this and looking after our son. I'm writing this on the site to prevent feeling awful when he comes home later and I try to describe the day I've just had, but somehow it gets turned into me not being able to cope. Any ideas? It is not a stage! He has just headbutted me whilst writing this (I have had to reach for Wallace and From it after 12 hours of wrangling.) Final thing, my son has always struggled to sleep. This has recently improved, especially when on holiday where we shared a bed. I am now considering doing the same at home in order to get him to sleep past 5. Sleep improves his behaviour. Thanks for reading x

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keepingmum1 · 30/08/2016 17:23

Talk Behaviour/development
Wild 2 year old.

My 27 month old is wild, not so much from tantrums, but from running away, constant saying no, refusal to keep still or really be tamed in anyway and constant pinching and punching. Every single conceivable daily task is met with no and a struggle to complete. He hits, pinches and punches me on a daily basis. I have scratches and bruises all over the top half of my body. We use the naughty step on a very consistent basis but he's not improving. I'm so fed up with people telling me it's a stage and he's a boy. I feel like I'm failing him and need some help. Aside from this, he's a lovely, caring boy and without trying to sound like I'm bragging he's very bright. It shocks me sometimes just how bright he is, he has now a handful of French words from our holiday. I am only telling you this so that I give a clear picture of the issues we're having. We enjoy so many different activities, yet I've also wondered if he's doing all this because he's bored. I don't see how he can be, as we read and play so much at home, but maybe I need different activities? It's driving a wedge between my husband and I as our son is so much more challenging with me. My husband seems to struggle with the idea that I'm struggling with this and looking after our son. I'm writing this on the site to prevent feeling awful when he comes home later and I try to describe the day I've just had, but somehow it gets turned into me not being able to cope. Any ideas? It is not a stage! He has just headbutted me whilst writing this (I have had to reach for Wallace and From it after 12 hours of wrangling.) Final thing, my son has always struggled to sleep. This has recently improved, especially when on holiday where we shared a bed. I am now considering doing the same at home in order to get him to sleep past 5. Sleep improves his behaviour. Thanks for reading x

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HamSandwichKiller · 30/08/2016 17:27

Do you think he could do with more time with kids his age? In your place I'd start looking for sessional care for him as they normally take from 2.5 years.

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keepingmum1 · 30/08/2016 17:35

Thank you, he has three days at a really creative nursery and we have lots of little mummy groups. Good suggestion though x

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HamSandwichKiller · 30/08/2016 19:06

Have you looked into ToddlerCalm workshops maybe? They have a book but run 1 day courses (I'm in South Wales and they run every 6 months and are about £40 a pop) too.

It is likely an irritating phase but a suggestion if you feel like it's necessary

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