I'd be interested to hear what other people tell their children about the potential dangers of adults.
My ds is 4.5 and we've discussed this a couple of times. The first time was when he came back from seeing his father for the weekend (ex-dh) and my ex mil told me that he'd run away from her in Brent Cross shopping centre (quite a big centre, NW London). We were all together when I was told and ex mil had with her a newspaper with a photo of Sarah Payne on the front page. I therefore told ds about the fact that Sarah had run off (I know she hadn't exactly, but...) and that a bad man had taken her and killed her. I explained that he must not run away from me or any adult with him because of this danger.
We've had a similar conversation this morning as he legged it while I was paying in Sainsbury's and I was furious with him. I've said:
- There are more good people than bad people in the world.
- It's very unlikely to happen to you as long as you do stay within my sight (or mil, dp etc)
- You can't tell who is good or bad from the time of day or just looking at them.
I got lots of hard questions: "why do some people kill children?"; "is it always men?" "where were Sarah's mummy and daddy and do they miss her?" "where did they find her body?" All horrible and I answered them as best I could.
He is a friendly cheerful boy who does say hello to people and he only ocassionally runs off from me. So, I do want him to be frightened enough not to do it since the Brent Cross episode shook me (although I wasn't there at the time and he was safely returned after someone took him to lost children and tannoyed ex-mil) but I don't want to scare the wits out of him too much or to destroy his innocence.
What do other people do? Has this been discussed at length already? Thanks. Oh, and he also opened the front door to the electricty meter man recently and shouted up to me that "there's a goody at the door, I've let him in, can you come downstairs?" I've told him he does not know he was a 'goody' and he mustn't do it again(I was in the loo).