I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on dealing productively with a violent child. My DS, 4.2, has generally been a happy, loving, affectionate child and continues to be most of the time. He is very bright and excited about going to school in September. However recently we've noticed an upsurge in violent and aggressive behaviour towards DH and I but particularly me - e.g. if he doesn't want to do something, or it's time to go to bed, he can turn in a second from his normal self to screaming, hitting, kicking, as well as shouting things like 'I'm going to punch you!' and 'I'm going to smash you!'. Also, he will aggressively make noises. It is hard to deal with by e.g. walking away as he will follow you and continue to hit/kick. We have tried talking calmly to him about it and explaining that this sort of behaviour is not acceptable. We have used 'consequences' like no bedtime story, no TV, etc. Sometimes he will calm down but other times he gets worse and worse until you end up shouting at him or restraining him, which makes me feel awful but I don't know what to do. I am planning to talk to his childminder about it just to check that there is none of that sort of behaviour when he is with her. I don't think there is or she would have mentioned it! At the moment I'm struggling to feel like I am dealing with this behaviour in a good way so any advice would be appreciated.
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4yo DS - suddenly becoming violent and aggressive
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wrungout82 · 18/07/2016 20:11
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