Ok so not a great day today - Dd4 started with a vomiting bug this morning so it's been one of those days.
My Dd6 and I often lock horns over lots of issues and I just don't know how to break the dynamic plus she gets me so cross sometimes, I don't think rationally.
So about an hour ago, I carried Dd4 up the stairs to bathroom whilst Dd6 walked. DD4 did poo on toilet whilst Dd6 was brushing teeth. Dd6 was stood on top of stool in front of sink so I asked her to step down so that Dd4 could wash her hands as I was particularly concerned about hygiene given vomiting bug. Dd6 refused to move. I asked her nicely 3 times and explained that I didn't want Dd4 to brush her teeth without washing hands first because I was worried about bug spreading onto toothpaste etc. Still no move. So I lifted Dd6 off stool at which point she lost it and started kicking and screaming saying that I cared more about Dd4 and her teeth. Then it just went downhill from there - she wailed for ages and kept demanding that I say sorry for stopping her from brushing her teeth - I tried to explain that she could still carry on brushing them whilst Dd4 was washing her hands but she would not listen and just kept screaming say sorry, say sorry. I told her that she should be the one to say sorry for not doing as she was asked but she would not back down and genuinely I believe thought that it was I and not her in the wrong and then it just turned into locked horns.
We somehow get into stupid situations like this at least 3-4 x week.
What should I do? any strategies to deal with her? These situations seem to blow up so quickly and out of nowhere and before I know it, I'm not in charge like a parent should be.
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How should I have handled this better?
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Jmangel · 20/06/2016 20:21
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