My 4 year old has just called her friend fat in front of the friend and her friend's parents. They were obviously upset and told her that it isn't a nice thing to say which is obviously the response I would expect. I have been very careful with my children to promote positive body image regardless of how we look. I never diet, allow them to make their own food choices, am a bit chubby post-baby but have NEVER commented on my weight other than to explain that my body stores fat to breastfeed the baby etc. Size is really a non-issue in our house and there are all kinds of sizes represented throughout our family. There are also different ethnicities and sexualities which are non issues in our family. We celebrate our differences without valuing some traits above others!! I am very careful not to talk about size as being a good or bad thing so she is totally unaware that fat could be seen as a 'bad' thing which would upset someone - to her fat is just something on our body and some people have more than others, like hair!! Obviously I have to discuss this as pointing out this fact is not socially acceptable but how should I do it? She didn't say it as an insult and was not trying to be mean. I don't want to reinforce the societal norm that fat is bad and upsetting for the person who is fat but I know I have to prevent her saying it in future!!! Any advice much appreciated!....
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