Apologies in advance, this is going to be a long one.
DD is 5.5 years, almost at the end of her first year at school, an only child. She's always been needy, has still only slept through a handful of times, wants to be permanently physically attached to me during the day. She's bright and her teacher has no worries on that score, but socially she's struggling.
She didn't go to nursery but went to a number of clubs and activities instead. She would only stay at one of these alone, and only once she'd been attending for 2 years. She's not settled at school this year and often cries going in. She says she has no friends (which seems to be quite common) but I'm not sure how true this is. Her teacher is no help, and just makes vague statements about her having friends but can't tell me who. While I see other kids go for play dates and get party invitations she's yet to receive either.
I've invited kids to our home, but things don't always go well. For example, recently a child fell and grazed their knee on the way back. The child cried and DD lost it. She was screaming at them to shut-up and ran away and screamed and cried for over 30 minutes. This is a fairly standard reaction from her to a child getting hurt.
When we've been invited to parties in the past she sits on my knee and cries until we leave. She can't stand the Happy Birthday song.
I took her to a fair at our local park this weekend. She's wanted to go on a carousel for about 2 years. As soon as we got to the fair she wanted to buy something from one of the stalls and leave. I suggested the carousel, she refused to even go over to look at it. We spent the rest of our time playing in the woods away from everything - she was happy with this and hasn't complained of missing out on the fair at all.
Today I got a new doormat. I knew she would be unhappy about this, but I didn't anticipate that it would cause 2 hours of tantrums when she got home from school.
That's just a snippet of things that have happened over the past couple of weeks. It's exhausting constantly second guessing how she'll react to a situation. Are these ordinary 5 year old things? At what point do these stop being typical kid behaviours?
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DrSingleMum · 06/06/2016 21:39
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