DS 4 behaviour a nightmare

[MrsBB1982]

I'm at the end of my tether and would be so grateful for any input people can give.

So, bit of background
I Have DS4 and DD2. They are completely different. DS has always been, what some may call high needs. For example even before he was 1 he would literally fight and bedtime, lashing out out, kicking etc.

He's so loving and kind. He hates the thought of people not liking him. He also hates to think of people unhappy. His speech is very good for his age and always has been, which may not help as I think people think he's more emotionally more mature than he actually is. He's very active and has had trouble concentrating on something (unless it's a current obsession like car washes and then he could spend hours)

Now to the problem side.....
I think he likes being the centre of attention. he struggles to see that if he loves something (like car washes) why others don't.

The thing I'm really worried about is what seems to be a lack of impulse control. He knows the rules at home and school but sometimes he just seems to explode. Either just gritting his teeth, growling or stamping his feet but I'm mortified that he's also been lashing out at other kids in the class.

It's like he's Jekyll and Hyde. One minute he's full of smiles, jokes and cuddles (although he's definitely a more serious character than his sister) but the next he might flip. I'm not sure there's always a trigger.

I'm at my wits end. Yesterday it came to a head and he got in serious trouble at school so when he got home we sent him to his room. He was allowed down for dinner then straight back up and to bed.

Any ideas, suggestions etc....please

[bobbinpop]

I'm having problems with my 8 yr old. I have no strategies to offer, I'm afraid, but sending virtual support as it's so tough!

I've just made an appointment with the pastoral care teacher at school: is there someone you can approach for support? Mine also go to emotional development type sessions at school which are nurturing and incredibly helpful.