DS2 is 3.5 and generally can be a lovely, cuddly, funny little boy. But we can't seem to get him to stop hitting when he gets frustrated and DH and I are really lost with what to do.
A bit of background - he's been in school (well, pre-school, but we're outside the UK and it's somewhere between school and nursery) since September 2015. He struggled at the start with not getting enough sleep and doing as he was told, but has generally made good progress. He still struggles to be understood sometimes, as he really mixes up his two languages (he speaks EN at home and the language of the country where we live at school). He naps still around midday and generally gets 10/11 hours sleep a night.
Our biggest problem is that he hits the other kids - even ones he's friendly with - when he gets annoyed with them not doing what he wants or when they bug him. He can go weeks being well behaved and then boom - we'll have a period of terrible behaviour. Today, for example, he bit another girl in his class "really hard". At home if he behaves like this (he often gets into arguments with DS1, age 6) we do time outs, and he gets something similar at school. He always says what he's done wrong, will say sorry spontaneously, and listen while you tell him off. But then he'll do the same thing again minutes or hours later.
DH and I are really lost with what to do with him. School have tried to be patient with him, but you can tell they're getting a bit fed up now. DS1 is the complete opposite - generally calm, reserved and focussed - whereas DS2 has always been energetic, outgoing and distractable. We also have DD1 who is 7 months, but I wouldn't say her arrival has affected things in a specific way - DS2 was like this before she arrived.
Can anyone offer any words of advice? Is it just because he's 3 years old? Should we try and get his behaviour assessed or something? (they don't tend to do that here until kids are 4/5) Should we try a new reward/punishment? Feeling lost.
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Feeling lost with my 3.5 year old's behaviour
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amyboo · 19/05/2016 16:04
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