Someone please help me? I am going mad with this...

(30 Posts)
Vickyyyy Wed 18-May-16 20:12:17

Son (22 months) has developed a great habit of taking his nappy off once he is in his cot. He does not do this through the day, only in bed at night. Its been going on about a week now and I am really sick to death. Last night we had to strip the cot FOUR times as he had pooed and smeared it everywhere, and peed the other times. Tonight we have had a further poo all over the cot and no doubt a bunch more to go. We simply do not have enough sheets/quilt covers/quilts (when he pees its soaking so we need another actual quilt not just a cover). The house is stinking despite it getting stripped as soon as we find it as we have pee/poo covered washing piles now every night...

We have tried putting his nappy on back to front to make it harder to take off, dressing him in a bunch of clothes, using pullups instead of nappies...nothing is stopping it. He is not ready for toilet training...he makes no attempt to let us know he wants to go. He Drifts off to sleep then as soon as he wakes nappy is off again and same thing over and over, so staying with him til he falls asleep doesn't help either.

I don't know what I expect given my health visitor has no answers for me but just incase anyone else has been through this, to even tell me you have been through the exact same stress would be a slight comfort right now. I'm thinking my kid is abnormal and this constant changing his bed is really getting to me so much.

Thisismyfirsttime Wed 18-May-16 21:18:37

My friend's DD did similar and I can't remember how she solved it, I will ask her! Something I've thought of though is perhaps getting him a onesie and putting it on back to front? It'd obviously have to have a low neckline to not strangle him. It's not just him though, other kids do this! flowers

Thisismyfirsttime Wed 18-May-16 21:25:43

Also, does he usually poo at night? If not perhaps he's pooing and not wanting it in his nappy, taking it off and then likes being without a nappy so doing it again when he hasn't pooed? I don't know how you'd resolve that though except checking on him really regularly for a few nights and whipping a nappy back on as soon as he takes it off. Do you have a baby monitor? DD does and if we turn it up high we can hear her moving about in her cot, I 'd think I could dash in and stop her/ put another nappy from a stash on her floor on. I'd put her in a onesie as above or a popper underneath vest and bottoms so she'd have to shuffle about a fair bit to get it off.

Petal40 Wed 18-May-16 21:26:50

Omg. How awful for you.....thisismyfirsttime said exactly what I was going to suggest.....the only other ideas were.....put some plastic type wipe clean toys in the cot ,attached to the side maybe...a music thing that plays dancing pictures on the celing...some wipe clean books....anything to distract him....also cut out the daytime nap...and have him walk on rains out and about...you want to get him utterly exhausted so he falls asleep as soon as his head touches the pillow.....have the baby monitor on and the second he wakes or u hear him stir get in there like a shot. X

TeaBelle Wed 18-May-16 21:27:57

Could you put him in a gro bag?

greenfolder Wed 18-May-16 21:31:26

Zip up onesie. Nappy safety pin through the zip tag.

ILoveAGoodBrusselSprout Wed 18-May-16 21:32:24

If you google this, a number of websites suggest duct tape as its so difficult to peel off. Might be worth a try

cattychatty Wed 18-May-16 21:35:07

I used masking tape over the sticky parts of the nappy he screamed blue murder when He realised he couldn't take it off. A friend of mine put baby grow on backwards that worked too

Vickyyyy Wed 18-May-16 21:43:42

He houdinis out of ANY kind of clothes. We tried a rather tight all in one sleepsuit backwards..out of it in seconds. He doesn't undo it..rather he will twist himself into whatever positions it takes to loosen them/get them off. Could try the nappy pin idea but I can't see it helping because of the way he gets everything off now :S

He usually does a poo on a night and one through the day. Its not because of the poo though as hes taking it off all of the time, even when its bone dry 5 mins after we put it on!

Never tried a gro bag but I dont think he would settle in one tbh as he gets really hot and kicks his blankets off and likes having freedom to move. He has toys in his cot already.

We also have a baby monitor still and I get up everytime I hear him move but obviously I sleep through movements sometimes and it seems that when I sleep through it thats when it happens sad He doesn't cry when hes peed the bed either, he will just lie in it which is awful so he will be wet until I next check on him.

Thank you for the replies by the way, its good to know I'm not actually alone in this blush

Vickyyyy Wed 18-May-16 21:45:46

Tape was a last resort that we actually used tonight but I was then panicky that he might get it off and try to eat it or something. Hubby taped right round so it was unlikely he would be able to rip the tape off himself but he screamed blue murder and I got paranoid that maybe it was too tight and cutting off his circulation or something so took it off..maybe I just need to get over it and stop being so soft

cattychatty Wed 18-May-16 21:50:10

If he can scream he can breathe he's fine

Kennington Wed 18-May-16 21:50:44

He might be too warm - perhaps keep the door open and a window open nearby.
My dd was similar and to this day will take her clothes off at night if she is even slightly warm. Plus plenty of water or milk before sleep so she doesn't feel thirsty.
Those dry nights sheets are ok too. But bloody expensive.
I could be completely wrong though.

CaffeineDeficitDisorder Wed 18-May-16 22:09:07

If he gets hot, put on a very thin bro bag back-to-front, so zip is at back. Can't take it off. Then you can put on a simple peppered short-sleeved vest over the nappy.
Have you also thought about getting a cloth nappy wrap? You could fix this on over the nappy, again, back-to-front to make it harder to remove the nappy.

CaffeineDeficitDisorder Wed 18-May-16 22:09:22

GRO bag not bro bag

Vickyyyy Wed 18-May-16 22:19:35

If he can scream he can breathe he's fine

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My mum says this all of the time. She used to go off it with me checking on the kids when they cried at night, saying I would spoil them and such and clearly if they are screaming they are breathing. Sounded a bit harsh actually but I guess me and my siblings are fine when that approach was taken to us as kids. lol

No never considered a cloth nappy..thats something I could try tomorrow night I guess. Will look into a grobag also, I'm honestly willing to try ANYTHING at this point.

anotherbusymum14 Wed 18-May-16 22:20:47

Yes safety pins on top of nappy seals to keep the nappy on, and a summer grow bag so bubs can't touch or remove nappy. Don't let bubs get too hot - use summer one. I think we did this but it was years ago now.

momb Wed 18-May-16 22:20:50

gaffer tape. It won't hurt if you only do it to the same tension as you would the nappy. He's crying with frustration as you have spoiled his game.....not because he's sore. It's become a habit.

TeaBelle Wed 18-May-16 22:27:21

If you're going down the sleeping bag route I definitely recommended slumber sac - they have removeable panels so that you can change the togs

EssexMummy1234 Wed 18-May-16 22:43:44

gro-bag - they come with handy room thermometer so you can check he's not to hot, but it doesn't have to be an actual grobag - loads of other places do baby sleeping bag - tk max, asda etc

18-21/22 degrees room temp use 2.5tog with either long or short sleeve vest and nappy - nothing else,

22+ use a summer 0.5 tog which is just like a cotton sheet they can't kick off.

Vickyyyy Wed 18-May-16 22:45:24

Just been checking out that slumbersack site..

www.slumbersac.co.uk/baby-sleeping-bag-with-feet-stars.html

I love this so much but reckon he would get that off no problem

Might be a bit harder with www.slumbersac.co.uk/simply-range-stripe-blue-4242.html BUT..we are wanting him out of the cot before long too and if he gets used to that I can see us having many issues with him falling over getting out of bed and such...but it would work for NOW maybe..

CaffeineDeficitDisorder Wed 18-May-16 22:46:29

You don't need to move onto cloth nappies, just put the wrap over a disposable nappy! I don;t want to complicate your washing when things are so tough.
I used cloth nappies for my first four years of nappies, but our home circumstances changed and the last year was on disposables - but the wraps were VERY useful at night!

EssexMummy1234 Wed 18-May-16 22:47:16

i've probably got a summer 18-36 months grobag that DD has outgrown that you can have, pm me if you want it and i'll post it - might be pink & white though :-)

Flumpnugget Wed 18-May-16 22:54:29

http://www.shop.kcsleepsuits.co.uk/childrens-sleepsuits-all-in-one-pyjamas-boys-and-girls-with-zip-back-for-special-needs/boys-sleepsuit-in-blue-with-short-sleeves.html

A friend bought something similar to this for her little boy who was a nightly "smearer".

Jools1968 Wed 18-May-16 23:06:17

Hi, I use to bath my son after a long play, put his nappy on and put a shortsleeved t-shirt with poppers, then put his pjs or babygrow thing on top of it... He cant undo the poppers, therefore he cant get to the nappy... make sure he is really tired before he goes to sleep too, so he is not like half sleep/half awake & restless, rippes off the nappy, hope this helps x

BirthdayBetty Wed 18-May-16 23:17:52

How about a onesie on back to front? I work with SN children, some are incontinent and some parents do this to prevent removal of the pads.

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