two year old out of control at times

[wildlingtribe]

Developmental I think. But he is the sweetest of kids but with a fierce temper. I try calm methods of talking but he will point blank refuse to calm or listen to help, a cuddle offered, he will scream, spit, bite, and then keep saying sorry.

I'm at my wits end.

He's my third.

We have five, four, two and three week old. This all started before baby was born though.

If being told not to do something he will not acknowledge it at all. We try playful methods and some with structure but nothing.

It's really upsetting

[wildlingtribe]

Now he's crying he's got a headache banging cupboard doors.

It's becuSe he's screamed since 2:30 on and off.

I'm
Actually stood in tears feeling hopeless

[wildlingtribe]

I can't believe how it's all escalated today

[Newtobecomingamum]

Sorry to hear this. Gosh it's tough isn't it. When I get upset, I stick him in the frontroom with a film/TV with stairgate across and take ten mins out and go upstairs to calm down/wipe tears etc. You get some days you think is there something wrong with them and question their behaviour, question yourself and dread the next tantrum so much. Have you tried ignoring the behaviour (wherever possible) and just carrying on with what your doing? This helps me and the second he does something good I go absolutely crazy with praise. Another thing that helped me is distraction... Whatever I can see or wherever I am at the time eg an aeroplane out the window/I'm sky I would very very over the top say something to capitate his attention and say "quick quick X, look there's a man parachuting out of the aeroplane" he would rush to where I am and keep looking but obviously can't see him and say where is he. I would then say quick, perhaps he had landed in the house or garden let's find him. If turn in into a game and then day he must have gone down the plug hole after he/we had searched everywhere and by this time he would be laughing. Other things that have distracted are looking for fairies etc!
Just remember it is a stage and you will get through it. When I hear him say e loves me, does something good or kind it overcomes all the tantrums in the end x

[Newtobecomingamum]

Sorry about typos!!

[wildlingtribe]

We try these things too and sometimes works but hunger and tiredness don't help, he just won't give in to ether though. One minute he's lovely and the next the battle of the wills happen!

[wildlingtribe]

Toys as well if his sisters have a toy, he wants it. He will scream fierce and lash out sometimes and NO amount of trying to calm the situation will help. Tunnel vision and will not be spoken to.

Then the girls give up & give him the toy.

This isn't all the time but sometimes! But sometimes is exhausting when it's a lot in one go.

Any tips?

[magicboy79]

He is only 2 remember, are these not common traits of some 2 year olds? My sons are 13 months apart and as different as night and day. The eldest is 20 months and he's an absolute mental nightmare at times, so good and a nice boy but he goes crazy and takes really bad tantrums when he doesn't get his own way. Even just going to the park or a walk can be a nightmare, and he bangs his head on purpose which is hard to watch!
I'd say just offer him a cuddle when he goes ape. Is it related to communication maybe? Is he a fluent talker yet? Maybe when he gets more vocabulary things will ease? I'd say it's a lot to do with age too, maybe hel calm down as he gets older?

[wildlingtribe]

His speech is extremely clear. I thought he was his four year old sisters voice yesterday lol

When angry though he obviously uses the screaming as it gets reactions too. We try to calm him and acknowledge what he's trying to say by helping.

[wildlingtribe]

I'm just worried the amount of screaming he's been doing is going to effect him too. Stress hormone etc

He's also obsessed with his dad and the separation anxiety at times doesn't help. He screams if he goes downstairs quick, and every morning when going to work he screams and cries.

[wildlingtribe]

A better day today thank goodness.
He's looking like he needs. Nap now though.. If he does he wakes up in a horrendous mood and won't just have a little nap!

[wildlingtribe]

Back to it again.
Screaming
Screaming
Screaming

School run was because he didn't want to hold my hand. Don't do reins as makes it worse and I hate them.

Got home, got him crayons and book now he's walking over it, screaming to watch to when I've said not right now as I got colours for him.

He's saying he's hot, and bad head. This is because of how hard he's screamed since 9am. But obviously he doesn't understand. But no help I do is accepted by him.

All week I've been drawn to tears as I just can't seem to do anything that helps.

Yesterday he was brilliant, not one outburst. So this week if he was ill or coming down with something then he wouldn't have been great then.

Teeth maybe? But still. It's literally anytime something isn't his way, developmental a I know but sending me mental yes as I've tried everything!

Surely this isn't good for him this screaming.

[wildlingtribe]

I could sit and do colours with him.
But I've done the school run, breastfed the baby, cleaned, now she's asleep I need to EAT. I know he doesn't see the issue but I need to see to me too. As this is where I go wrong. and my patience goes.




And now the baby is awake.....

[twirlywoo69]

Sending you hugs xx