My 9 yo has gone to school in tears. I've come home and sobbed to myself. As usual the children have about an hour from finishing breakfast to leaving the house.
As usual they appear when I call them half dressed, with something missing or not done. Despite me shouting several time warnings upstairs and asking 'have you done your teeth?' Etc. Etc. Today I've lost it because we get in the car (later than we should leave because she had no socks on and hair not done when she appeared) and I notice her school trousers are dirty. I mean dried on glue all over both thigh areas. She tries to hide it by shuffling but I tell her I've seen and she needs to go back in and change them. I then get the inevitable 'I can't find any more...' From upstairs.
So I tell her we gave to leave now anyway. But I have then gone on and on about it all the way to school, how they both have an hour to get ready on a morning, they are not babies, they need to check their uniform the night before and if it's dirty make sure they have a clean one ready - or tell me and I'll make sure, but I can't do anything as we are leaving the bloody house! I have accused the 9 yo of being lazy and inconsiderate and cited all the examples of this she gives me daily - drops her coat on the floor when she comes home, never moves dirty dishes off the table, expects me to remember and take her school bags, swimming bags etc because she literally just puts herself in the car (half dressed and scruffy). So she's upset and by the time she's gone in still crying I'm upset too.
I don't know if I'm being unreasonable expecting her to be able to do these things without a fuss. I am sure I did at her age. Her brother is slightly older and not as bad, though guilty of some of this too, he generally needs 'reminding' and then he steps up a bit. With her I feel I'm just constantly nagging and she never, ever remembers. Even getting out of the car at school this morning after all our drama leaving the house, she is sat with her lunch box, bag and instrument case right by her, but she gets out of the car and makes to walk away towards school, and I'm cross so I did say 'oh, are you expecting your slave to bring your things again?' I really don't know how to make things more streamlined especially on a morning, but I'm reaching the end of my rope with it. Every day is the same (today is extreme, but generally each day is along these lines in a morning) yet they have so much time to get ready, do I really need to stand over them at 9 & 11 yo?
Gah. End of rant.
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Kitkatmonster · 10/03/2016 09:12
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