My son is generally a pleasant, loving and happy child who has excellent language skills for his age and is very sociable with other children. Generally 'well behaved' but despite this has the usual tantrums which sometimes end in him hitting or kicking me or DH, or him hitting himself, usually in the face / head. I find it hard to deal with this physically (he's strong!) and emotionally and I am especially worried about him hitting himself. I try to stay calm, explain why we need to do the thing he's tantrumning about, tell him that he shouldn't hit or kick others or himself because it hurts, ask him to calm down and offer hugs, and then try to get back on with what we were trying to do that caused the tantrum in the first place. It doesn't always work...!
The triggers for his tantrums tend to be things like having to get dressed or undressed (he hates this, hates being 'naked' but also hates getting un/dressed) or being told there's no time for TV or that it's time to turn the TV off (we don't watch TV in the mornings due to the tantrums but he does watch 30mins-1hr after school most days), all exacerbated by tiredness. I'm finding that since starting school nursery last month he is extra tired, and more so than he was doing the same overall amount of hours at his other nursery. (He now goes to school nursery 2.5 hrs a day every day and also continues to attend another nursery for 3.5 hrs a day on the 3 days a week that I work, with me taking him between the two in my lunchtime). The school nursery class is big (over 35 kids) and he's started partway through the year with one or two others, whereas the majority of the other kids have been there since September. Together with the new environment I guess the whole thing is tiring him out.
Sleep-wise, he naps (with some encouragement) one or two days a week, and regardless of this, goes to bed around 8. We stay with him until he falls asleep (usually takes about 15/20 mins) and then occasionally he'll sleep through but usually wakes and calls for us at least once so we get up to settle him which is usually quick and then most nights, later on (not sure when, can't face looking at the clock!) he ends up in our bed where he sleeps but is incredibly wriggly and so disturbs me and DH. He'll wake around 7 usually. Our tiredness makes it harder to deal with these tantrums, and I'm 31 weeks pregnant so need sleep. We've tried putting him back into his bed but he cries and says he wants us, is cold etc.
I'm sure that the school change has been unsettling and tiring and this is partly why his behaviour has changed but we've had the same issues previously, bascially more or less since he turned 3. Any thoughts please? We have baby #2 due in May so more change ahead...!
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3.5 year old hits and kicks us in temper and hits himself in the head too
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rainbowontheway · 09/03/2016 10:04
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