Hi,
My four year old child's mother and I are separated and she lives with her parents. Before we separated her parents would sometimes have our child for the night (since about the age of 2) and I was not aware her dad was smoking roll-ups indoors but she was and lied to me about it. That went on for over a year.
Now she lives there and our child shares his time between us.
Since that has happened, our child has done these things:
- Pretended to roll a cigarette with paper and then 'smoke it'
- Talked about tobacco
- Stepped out the front door for a "smoke like granddad" (some things are changing)
- Picked up a few items that look vaguely like a cigarette and 'took some drags'
- Most worryingly of all, done something highly suspicious with tin foil and a pencil
Our child has that 'I'm showing you something' attitude when these things happen and I react like it's nothing and he's just wrong about something. Anyway, the mother refuses to discuss it or even acknowledge my concerns. We were messaging yesterday and I expressed these concerns and she's been ignoring me since. When I've mentioned concerns about our child and smoking in the past she has ignored me too.
Do you think there's any justification in this?