I'm a bit shocked, possibly overreacting, certainly emotional. Yesterday when I was dropping the DS off at reception, his teacher smiled, handed me a form and asked if I could give consent to refer DS for OT. She didn't give me any more information but said I should just fill in the rest of the form as she had already filled it in and provided the 'evidence'. I got to work and looked at the 4 pages of checkboxes (plus two examples of my little boy's writing) and I don't agree with about half of what she has asserted; that he can't dress himself, hop, hold a pen or know the name of letters etc. I totally get that with 30 other children in the class she might not see him do these things, especially if he's being an awkward sod and refusing (he's four) but I know he can and does do those things at home. So I had a meeting with her today and told her that what she's written doesn't ring true for me, but I do want to give him help if he needs it, so does she think he really need this and if so, what does it mean - will he be labelled in the future, will he be taken out of class etc. She couldn't really answer me but reiterated that she does think he has physical issues (when I said 'but I see him doing all of these things you haven't seen' she just smiled and said 'oh ok') so I asked for the weekend to think.
So sorry, a bit too long and rambly, but I don't know what to do. He is only 4: some of the checkboxes were right - he doesn't like using cutlery, isn't good on a scooter or bike, doesn't enjoy writing - but should he be referred by a SENCO so young? Will it have a lasting impact if I do / don't give this consent? Shouldn't we just practise writing / scooting / with cutlery for six weeks and see where we get before referring him? Or is it not a big deal?
Am I being ridiculous?
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Teacher wants to refer 4yo for OT
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CustardLover · 15/01/2016 21:36
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