My lovely son and I haver the following habit. For his father after bed time routine which is bath, milk, teeth, stories then bed pretty much around 7 ish - 8 at latest most nights they will go into the nursery my OH will have a little chat and cuddle with him about his day sing a routine song "all my love is bubbling over :))" then he sets him into his bed and says goodnight our son then falls asleep on his own and doesn't need his dad to stay in the room. For me it's a different story as soon as I've sung the song he wants me to cuddle him to sleep and "Put your legs in the bed mummy" if I lie with him he falls asleep after he's stroked my face little bit and fussed around a bit. I then try to leave in a stealth like manner, then about 4 hours later he wakes up sad that i'm not there and calls out of me, last night he did this 3 times and it's causing real stress in the house. I know the problem is with me (because OH has said that!) I cannot stand to hear our son cry or be distressed and he gets very upset if I say I'm leaving now time to sleep night night. Sometimes I've managed to sit at the end of the bed but since I've been off work for christmas and we've co slept in various guest family houses over the festive period he's really attached to me being in bed with him. I've just had a little chat with him and told him that tonight I won't put my legs in because his bed isn't big enough for us both and that now he's 3 he can learn to sleep on his own for mummy just like he does with Daddy, he's said ok i said I will hold your hand tonight until you're either ready for me to leave or ready to fall asleep and he has said ok. My question is really any tips that anyone may o can't bear it I have awful memories of my own childhood being left to cry and the one time we tried it i found it deeply upsetting and went against all my instincts x Thanks in advice for any help
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3 year old son - sleep issue my OH has asked me to tackle tonight
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lucylalap74 · 10/01/2016 14:19
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