Evening! Sorry about the long post! I've been sat here mulling things over for a while...
So, I've lost count of the number of times I've had a conversation with my 5YO along the lines of..."I couldn't find my friends to play with, or so and so wouldn't let me play they kept running away from me" my response: did you look for them? Did you find someone else to play with? "No, I was just all alone" Oh dear, heart sinking, things like this really hurt and I don't know how to help him without wading in to the teacher!
My DS started school in September and has had a great time, plays with lots of children and knew of them as they attended nursery together. We did a whole class birthday party and he has had lots of return invites etc. As his first term progressed he had a few trials with some of the boys in his class...hitting, pushing, excluding, running away or changing game rules in the middle so he'll lose etc. Nothing too serious or violent and I mentioned it to his teacher, the message was they have a large group of boys in his class who dominate and whose behaviour is less than desirable. They are working on it. I do expect this sort of thing..they're tiny little people and they're all learning. But of course, my priority is how it affects my dear one.
He's quite different to other children, he's sharp as a button and full of empathy, he tries a bit too hard to be a clown, the girls love to play with him because he's imaginative and articulate. I sometimes wonder if he's a bit of a round peg? The boys in his class seem like normal five year olds to me, very nice parents and homes etc. and a whole mix of personalities. Things they do and say really upset him, he's up late worrying and when he does eventually tell me what's bothering him is very teary about it. The other boys seem quite sporty and enjoy mischief. There is a friendship triangle between himself and two of them, but the naughty behaviour and giggles at other's expense are winning out and my DS is losing out. He's the opposite of your stereotypical bullied child so I'm surprised to be having this trouble...
I generally go through the details of what happened and try to pick apart what happened and make practical suggestions. When it comes to making friendships I am at a loss to advise him? When you pick apart how children make friends it's a mystery to me!
I would do play dates and will in the future but I am currently heavily pregnant and unable to walk! With a two year old and a building site house, I have no energy/ practical resources for play dates on top. Does anyone have any advice about how to react to your child's worries? What to do about friendship issues in general? - I would hate to be the mum always in the class with teacher telling them "they're being cruel to my baby!" I said to myself if it carries on for a long time I'll raise more concern with his teacher.
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Five year old says "nobody would play with me today"
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shinymonkey · 04/01/2016 23:11
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