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Kids bathing together?

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Letitgoletitgo · 23/12/2015 09:35

Hello, just wondered if people have both boys and girls, at what age did they stop putting them in the bath together? ds nearly 6 and dd just 4 have always bathed together but I'm wondering if they are starting to get a bit old for it? They enjoy having baths and play together but there has definitely been a lot more discussion of their bits lately! In as way this is good because it means they understand differences and are comfortable with it, but how old is too old?! It is just so much easier to pop them in together still!
Any advice appreciated! Thanks

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SillyBub · 23/12/2015 09:44

8yo DS and 5yo DD still bath together, although sometimes DS chooses a shower. I'm sure they'll chose to bathe alone before I decide it's inappropriate, or the bath will simply be too small seeing as she's the same size as him.

PirateJones · 23/12/2015 15:16

stop when one of them no longer wants to. mine were 4 and 10.

PirateJones · 23/12/2015 15:42

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wallywobbles · 23/12/2015 15:45

Yup when the oldest starts to sprout. My DDs and friends still share at 10&11 but boys have been banned for about 3 years.

LBOCS2 · 23/12/2015 15:47

DSS (8) bathes with DD (3) sometimes - it's fine (apart from the inevitable flooding of the bathroom which occurs each and every time!). He'll tell us when he gets uncomfortable with it, which I expect will be relatively soon due to his increasing want for privacy when he gets changed.

CherryPits · 24/12/2015 21:46

My DD and DS stopped when they were 5 and 6.

Usually they bathed in a mild bubble bath anyway, to stop any discussion of bits.

Really the pediatricians etc recommend 5 as the stopping point.

BearFeet · 24/12/2015 22:04

8 and 4 still do here.

MrsBungle · 24/12/2015 22:06

6 and 3 still fine here.

Olivo · 25/12/2015 20:42

Is five recommended for different genders or same gender? Mine are 6 and 9, DDs, they still share.

anotherdayanothersquabble · 25/12/2015 21:05

DS 11, DD 9 and DS 6 still share (it's a bit of a squeeze when all three are in!! DS1 often showers so shared baths are rarer than they used to be.

I have never heard any formal advice from paediatricians about bath sharing.

All families differ. It's about what your children are comfortable with.

darkequinoxlight · 25/12/2015 21:07

Children don't always communicate when they feel uncomfortable very well. I would be tempted to stop soon.

planter · 25/12/2015 21:09

It should be down to the parents, not the bloody state!

BikeRunSki · 25/12/2015 21:09

Ds(7) had recently started prefering showers to himself, rather than dd(4) , but it's more for space. They are both very tall and our bath is quite small.

Artandco · 25/12/2015 21:27

Paediatrician don't recommend 5, they don't recommend any age

Mine share now at 4 and 5. They still share with Dh and I also

Frusso · 25/12/2015 21:35

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CherryPits · 25/12/2015 22:05

Artandco and Frusso - Have you spoken to your pediatricians about it..?

CherryPits · 25/12/2015 22:06

Olivo - different genders

toptomatoes · 25/12/2015 22:09

Mine are 9 (boy), 5 (boy) and 2 (girl) and still share. We have told the oldest he can hop in first or last or have a shower if he prefers but he usually just gets in with the others.

Artandco · 25/12/2015 22:16

Well no, but my brother is a paediatrician and has been over at ours when kids in the bath (4 and 5). He has his own children ages 9, 6 and 18 months. All 5 have shared baths wit each other at various times. He has never mentioned the fact it's not recommended.

Artandco · 25/12/2015 22:16

Cherry - are you American?

planter · 25/12/2015 22:19

And why would you use bubble bath to prevent discussion about bits?

All seems a bit bizarre to me.

CherryPits · 25/12/2015 22:20

No but I do live in the uS which is why my bloody auto correct spells the way it does (sorry).

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CherryPits · 25/12/2015 22:20

Never mentioning is not the same as when you ASK though, is it.They do have guidelines written.

christinarossetti · 25/12/2015 22:28

I have a boy and girl, 8 and 6, and they usually choose to share, although have been offered separate baths for some time now.

I've never discouraged discussion about genitals etc, as surely this is quite a normal thing for children to discuss in a factual way.

Artandco · 25/12/2015 22:28

Sorry but that is a very American state of mind

Mine bath together, bath with friends together, bath with cousins together

They spend holidays on the beach with family and friends running in the sea naked

They get changed at school for swimming with whole class of naked friends

They walk around at home naked and Dh and I do between showers and baths and getting dressed etc.

They do not need bubble bath in bath to ' hide their bits'!

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