10 year old girl who wont wear girls clothes. Anyone else have a dd the same?

[pepsi]

The other day my 4 yr old dd asked my why her cousin wore the same clothes all the time, namely navy track suit bottoms and a t'shirt, I just said because that what she likes, but it got me thinking. She has an 8 year old sister who is a typical pink girl. My niece has always worn track suit bottoms and in the summer jersey style tight shorts and a t-shirt, always in dark colours. When they go to somewhere like Asda she refuses to even look at the girls section and will only buy her stuff from the boys range. Theres a christmas disco at school on Friday and, as in previous years, she doesnt want to go, but her little sister will. She wont go to a hairdressers either and her Mum cuts her hair at home. I suppose Im being stereotypical, I so much want her to be a bit more girly. Im worried for her when she goes to secondary school next Sept that other girls will be nasty to her for the way she is. Or are tomboy style girls more common than I think?

[DizzyBinterWonderland]

i think you should be proud of your neice for not wanting to follow the masses and not buy into the whole pink=girl marketing blah blah. let her be as she wants to be. once she gets to secondary school she may be totally different anyway. and besides, kids do find things to pick on whether it be clothes, hair, accent, whatever. if she did like pink things and discos and what not, the other kids might still find something else to pick on. i think you're over worrying about it.

[3frenchHenniePennies]

Hi, my oldest DD is very similar in that she won't wear anything that is remotely girly/feminine (she's about to turn 12), instead the darker the better i.e dark blue or black. Tomboys are much more common than you think! The only girly concession my DD makes is that she has the most beautyfull nails that you've ever seen!

[foxinsocks]

I was like this as a girl. Must admit, did get a fairly hard time at the start of secondary school because my hair wasn't v girly and I wasn't really into the same stuff as everyone else.

If she's in a big enough school, she'll probably find that there will be a few other girls like her and she'll group together with them.

[pepsi]

Its a good point you make Dizzy, and its good to be "you". Shes not a girly girl in any sense of the word, never liked dolls and all the typical girl toys. Ive just got a feeling that deep inside she would like to be different but hasnt the confidence to change. In general she lacks confidence.

[pepsi]

I guess Im hacked off with my SIL about it more today. Last summer I bought the girls a pair of cut of jeans and vest type T shirts each in Next...about £17.00 each I spent on them I think it was. Any when I chatted with SIL today and she said dd wouldnt wear jeans I said "what about the ones I bought as a girt", she replied oh know she wont wear them. I said, well take them back them and let her choose something of her own. She said, know I'll save them for the younger dd now. I annoyed because at the time I made it more than clear to all of them that if they didnt like the items/didnt fit that they should take them back and choose what they like. Trouble is my SIL is bloody lazy...........the whole issue with my nieces goes far deeper than one of them not want to wear girls clothes.

[pooka]

I was very anti-skirts and frills as a youngster. I do make more of an effort now - so will wear skirts occasionally and do like to dress up although my day to day uniform is still jeans, boots and a v-neck gap tee (with vest if chilly).
I wish dd would wear trousers and more interesting colours. Somehow (don't ask me) she has become the most frilly, pink, frou frou girly girl. Obviously it's just the way she is and of course I love her for it. But I do hanker after kickers and jeans whereas her idea of heaven is a ballerina costume with high heeled shoes (). But she is only 3 and I keep hoping it's just a phase.......

[sandyballs]

One of my twin DDs (5) is like this. Short hair, jeans and t-shirts/jumpers, trainers. Doesn't bother me. In fact she is much easier to get out the house than her girly sister who, even at 5, tries on several skirts/pairs of tights and then has to have pants that match (WHY?), and then fusses about how to have her hair. Give me tom boy girls any day .