Ds has started wetting the bed :(......advice please

[nutcracker]

His behaviour is also awful again and am thinking it must be connected to me splitting with his dad.

I stupidly thought that he would be the least bothered as he was younger and closer to me than his dad but he is getting quite distressed by it it seems.

His has wet te bed 3 times now, not in a row, over the space of 2 weeks, but previosuly he had never wet the bed, not even when potty training.

The first time he did it, he didn't even know he'd done it despite soaking wet trousers and sheets.
The last twice he has gone into the bathroom and then realised he's already done it in his bed.

I have asked him if his is upset about anything and he always waffles on about nothing really. I said to him that I know he misses daddy but that he can still see him and he said but daddy walks away and won't turn around and say bye bye . He must have been dreaming about him.

He always goes to the toilet on his way to bed but he does have a drink only about 5/10 minutes before bed, I think I need to make that earlier don't I ??
I don't tell him off, just wash him down, change him and strip his bed. Then I tell him he can always get out of bed to go to the toilet even if it is dark, and if he wants me to go he can shout me.

Anything else I can do ?

[nutcracker]

Sorry, meant to add that he is just 4.

[7swansaswimmingup]

oh nutcracker, poor you and poor ds. would agree that its probably associated with his father going

dont really have experience of bedwetting and cant remember how old your ds is but could you try lifting him for a wee in the night or waking him to pee in a jar or something?

[nutcracker]

Yeah I think I will have to start lifting him if moving his bedtime drink forward doesn't work.

I just feel so damn guilty about putting him through all of this. He used to be such a loving, happy and contented little boy.

[7swansaswimmingup]

none of this is your fault nutcracker, youre a brill mum and your ex is a twat. blame him if youre gona blame anyone. if your ds didnt have you doing such a good job he would be peeing the bed every night

might be worth letting the doctors put it on record also that its started happening

[nutcracker]

Thanks 7up

[stoppinattwo]

Has he just startsd school, this september, It may be easy to think its due to his dad going., that could be part of it, but just to be sure, there may be stuff going on in school thats playing on his mind.

Main thing is to not make a big deal of it, my DD is 5 and still has times when every night she will wet the bed, than go for weeks without. I usr the pampers sheets on the bed under her sheet so she doesnt know thay are there. That way any accident is no big deal.

I dont allow drinks after 6 and take her for a wee when im going to bed. - lift her out of bed and sit her on the toilet, she doesnt even wake up!!


Good luck

[nutcracker]

Thanks stoppinattwo, he isn't at school though yet, starts next Sept.

I will cut back his bedtime drink to 6.45 ish as he goes to bed at 7.30 and has been having it at around 7.15ish.

If that doesn't work then I will start lifting him when I got to bed at around 11.

[stoppinattwo]

I find they always have a wee stashed somewhere, I go to bed about 11 myself and she always manages to do one.

[nutcracker]

LOL @ wee stashed somewhere

[stoppinattwo]

well i would have thought that a last drink at 6 and dd's bedtime at 7.30ish she would have squeezed out as much as possible. but no she has the bladder of a small elephant