Hi, we have a DD who is 3 and a half. She was adopted at 1yo. (not sure it has any relevance but don't want to drip feed).
She struggled with transition into nursery and then again into preschool (same childcare facility).
She is extremely shy. Painfully shy. Frustratingly shy.
She wont say hello or wave at anyone who tries to interact with her. She still wont say hello to clients who come to the house, who she has know her entire life (with us).
We have to explain everything that will happen so that she can cope. She has been known to have a tantrum to avoid going to new places. she gets so anxious.
She hates being the centre of attention and actually disengages and retreats within herself if she thinks people are interested in her.
At preschool it has taken 6 months for her to speak in a group situation and even then it is rare and very quiet.
its almost as if she freezes in situations, new or known. The only place she is a chatty Kathy is at home or with us or her immediate family.
So, to my question, ell several, but all on the same theme.
How do we help her cope? How do we help her enjoy her experiences without stressing her out? How do we encourage her to engage with people and situations?
I don't want her to miss out on life because crippling shyness holds her back. I know she is only 3, but what if this is her personality, she needs coping strategies.
thank you for reading.... any advice is gratefully received.
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planesick · 25/11/2015 10:17
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