Our two year old is becoming predictably resistant to everyday tasks and has taken to flat out ignoring us. Past techniques aren't working and the frequent battles are winding us up, so we're looking to start a new decipline / incentive regime and are looking for inspiration. Details below if you want them. Thanks in advance.
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DS is 2.2 and generally a lovely, affectionate, helpful boy. Recently we've been having increasing resistance to everyday tasks (nappy change in the morning, clothes & teeth before nursery, hands before dinner, etc. He's also started just ignoring us when he doesn't want to do what we're asking - even when it's preparing for something he does want to do. I.e. Ten minutes stalling on getting shoes in preparation to go to the zoo. They're seeing the same not-listening behaviour at nursery and needing to be firmer with him there.
His sleep has been rubbish over the period in question (switch to big bed, nightmares, lurgy) but he doesn't seem overtired (though we are!), just like he's flexing his two year old resistance muscles.
We've been responding by threatening sanctions ("if you don't get your shoes on, we won't go to the zoo", "if you don't brush your teeth, we'll have to skip a story" and following through, but it's not curbing the behaviour. Time out doesn't do much and isn't practical in morning routine when he digs his heels in at every step. Walking away / ignoring works better, as he'll come find us to do the contested thing eventually - but if we're in a hurry it can't work that way. And we're finding it hard not to get worked up by it and resorting to cross voices and anger - which we don't want to teach him is the way to get your way. Any ideas?
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What's your top tip for garden variety two-year old unhelpful behaviour?
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HJBeans · 20/09/2015 07:43
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