Hi. My ds is 6 1/2 and is in his first year of school. For most of the year, things have been going well - good report, group of mates that he plays with every day, etc etc.
He has seemed a bit down lately and hasn't been trying as hard at school, eg. every week the kids can earn stickers and points toward receiving an award, if they do good work & display good behaviour etc. Ds was doing this with lots of enthusiasm and earning regular points, but lately he hasn't had any and he doesn't seem to care about it anymore - I think he's generally feeling down. I found out a couple of weeks ago that one of the boys in his group (who appears to be a bit of a troublemaker) has become quite possessive of my ds' closest friend. As a result, this boy and ds' friend have teamed up together and when they feel like it , they will pick on ds by coming to look for him at lunch time and trying to fight him. This has turned around completely from a few months ago, when this group of about 6 boys were all friends. Now ds appears to have been singled out, and some days they will play with him and some days they won't - all (seemingly) because of this kid who wanted to muscle in on the friendship. I regularly see this boy kicking other children in the playground, and apparently he's been told off a few times for kicking/hitting my ds when ds can be bothered complaining about it, but nothing else seems to have been done.
No major damage has been done in the sense that ds is not coming home with cuts or injuries, but they taunt him and push him down to the ground, that kind of thing. Then other days they will be nice and 'let' him play with them. I know it's upsetting him that this group don't seem to be as friendly with him anymore and I don't think he understands it at all - he said he doesn't want to fight them and he just wants it to stop. I've now made an appointment with his teacher on Thursday to discuss it with her and I absolutely don't want this kid in the same class as ds next year.
So basically my question is - what would you do? Are these 'normal' kind of playground antics?? I know kids tend to be fickle and can be friendly one day and nasty the next, but I just want to hear whether this kind of thing has happened to other people's children and if it has improved with time, etc. Ds is a lovely kid, he has his faults like most children but is the type who just wants to be friends with everyone. He really likes this group of boys and probably shows it too much, which is perhaps why a couple of them have turned on him. He's a more sensitive type than a rough time, IYKWIM. I'm really not sure what to do, but am hurt on his behalf. Thank you.
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I'm concerned about my son & would appreciate some help from parents of school-aged kids :(
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Lsmum · 28/11/2006 09:22
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