Hi, i'm after some advice please as i'm at my wits end with my 3 year old boy.
I'm not one to admit defeat but i've come to the stage now where I don't now what to do or how to handle his behaviour!
This could be a long post so i'll apologise in advance.
Basically I have a 5 year old little girl and 3 year old boy.
My little boy is just constantly on the go and can't sit still, he's deliberately naughty (or so it seems) and has no sense of danger at all! I know people say not to compare children as they are all different, however my lb is sooooo much different to my lg, even compared to other children his age (or so it seems to me and his dad).
I'll give a list of things he does on a daily basis and things he's done lately:
Will not ever sit still, even to eat food. - He has to fidget or get up and down from the table, he will go from standing to sitting on his chair constantly, along side the getting up and down and fidgeting, i'm constantly having to ask him to eat his food.
From the moment he gets up til when he goes to bed he seems to be on a constant rampage and on the go, he exhausts his sister and she's quite active!
At bed time 9/10 times he refuses to sleep and it can take anywhere up to 4 hours after being put to bed before he actually falls asleep... in this time he's caused havoc in his room or bathroom such as blocking the sink, wasting a whole tube of toothpaste etc - He has a babygate on his bedroom door but he can open it, we've tried several different ones and he can open them all.
He has constant tantrums if we say no to something or ask him to wait - He can't wait at all! not even 2 mins!
He is quite aggressive to his sister if he doesn't get his own way, when and how he wants it, he cannot wait his turn and if asked to he lashes out at his sister.
When we are out and about I have to have my eyes on his constantly and hold on to him for dear life, he has no sense of danger - Getting out the car in a car park and he has no issue with dashing straight across the road without any concern for cars etc He will dash away from me in suupermarkets and touch EVERYTHING! There's been several times he has broken things. He constantly climbs even when asked not too, he constantly messes around on stairs - he fell down them a couple of months ago and had to have stitches in his head from it - he hasn't learnt, He still messes about on them and I must tell him 100 times a day to get off the stairs and stop messing about etc.
The past few weeks he has been waking up even earlier than normal and sneaking so quietly downstairs and raiding our kitchen cupboards (he is using toys to climb to get to the over head cuupboards)!! emptying the cupboards of food into bowls, filling it with everything he can find including milk and just wasting it. He has spilt cooking oil all over my carpet twice and also all over kitchen floor and worktops. My lg woke me at 4am one morning to tell me he was downstairs, i've gone down and he had the oven and stove on!! I dread to think what could have happened if she hadn't woke me!
He put buubbles in his sisters fishtank when he was in time out, so i've cleaned it out and had the fish in a bucket whilst doing the tank. He's fished two fish out and put them in a sock and just left them on the flloor, I was only in bathroom filling a bucket of water so was literally gone two minutes so managed to save them, when i asked him why he did it he just said because I wanted to and laughed
This is just some of the things he does and both me and hubby are at our wits end. We've tried praising good behaviour like over praising that doesn't work, we've tried getting down to his level and speaking softly to him and he just won't pay attention or laughs at us, we've shouted at him, we've tried time out and nothing is working. I'm going to buy some locks for the doors downstairs so that he can't get anywhere near kitchen, but I don't know what to do about his behaviour in general?!
To us it seems worse than other 3 year olds we know.
We play as much as possible with him and constantly give him things to engage with or do but after a minute or two he's lost interest and is running ragged around the house again!
Does anyone have any advice?! I'm totally exhausted and just feel like crying.
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taz89 · 03/09/2015 10:49
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