DS is having all sorts of behaviour difficulties at school, and we have an IEP in place, and on-going detailed discussions about how to improve his behaviour.
He is a VERY bright little boy, and I have been looking at information on gifted children. We can tick several of the boxes for features common to gifted children, including disruptive behaviour at school.
I mentioned this to his teacher this morning (she was explaining a change to his star chart system). She was dismissive, and said they were rather inclined towards the Attachment Disorder theory.
So I came home and googled attachment disorder. I got this site .
Now I admit, looking at the symptoms that we can tick 3 boxes (and only those three).
?Intense control battles, very bossy and argumentative; defiance and anger
?Manipulative - superficially charming and engaging
?Poor peer relationships
But NONE of the others (especially the ones about Learning lags/delays and Speech and language problems).
The reason I am SOOOOO devastated is this.
?Parents appear hostile and angry
?The child was neglected and/or physically abused in the first three years of life
This syndrome is apparently associated with children who were uncared for as babies. The case study given on the website is of a child who was adopted from a Romanian Orphanage.MY CHILD WAS NURTURED BY DH AND I FROM THE FIRST MINUTE OF HIS LIFE.
I don't know what to say when I collect ds from school today. I KNOW this theory is wrong. I don't know what they think of me.
My gut instinct is to remove this child from this teacher immediately.
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I'm shaking and crying. DS's teacher says they think he has attachment disorder
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clumsymum · 17/11/2006 10:54
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