Alternatives to time out?

[AndThisIsTrue]

Just that really, if you don't do time out with your toddler what do you do when they misbehave?

[ccridersuz]

The naughty step, but try the opposite.
A star chart with sticky stars for good behaviour, with a small reward for so many a week, children respond better to being praised for what they do right, the idea is to correct that you don't want your child to do one thing at a time. Start with the thing that worries you most.
For example, if your child won't hold on to the pram, or runs off when you are shopping, but also will not sit at the table to eat. Start with praising him for not running off or holding the pram.
Once that problem is no longer a problem, progress to the sitting at the table nicely problem.
Worked for me.

[Jaffakake]

We encourage ds1 to spend time in his room until he calms down if he's throwing a wobbler. We also have a marble jar, he's gets a marble for saying yes when we ask him to do something, a marble is taken away if he says no. Once the jar is full he gets a reward. It helps keep dialogue positive when he's being difficult.

[Heyho111]

A child doesn't understand time out till they are 3 yrs + because the idea of time out is to think about what they have done wrong which a toddler can't do.
Modelling behaviour and distraction is the best way. Also a toddler will only respond to no momentarily per nance of no is a lot later.
It's hard going when they are toddlers as it is never ending.

[tobysmum77]

I take toys off mine. Time out doesn't work imo.....

[Marthapolo8719]

Oh watching with internet. Timeout doesn't work for my 2.5 dd. I like the marbles idea.

[keeptothewhiteline]

There are other ways of managing behaviour without using punishment reward system.

I don't punish. I think that it doesn't teach children to develop a responsible attitude towards their own actions.

[tobysmum77]

nothing wrong with actions having consequences imo, but we all have different ideas .

[Crazyqueenofthecatladies]

I don't get this argument against punishment and rewards I really don't. Yes we'd all like people to do things for the very best of intentions but tbh many adults can't do that and only follow societal rules because of rewards and punishments. Expecting three year olds to be wiser than many adults seems very unfair. Plus the idea of rewards and punishments is a good early way of modelling positive behaviour until the requisite introspection is there. Leaving them to do as they please til say eight seems unwise...

[keeptothewhiteline]

Leaving them to do as they please til say eight seems unwise...

No -one is suggesting that though. Children need guidance and learn about boundaries. I am suggesting tat his can be done without punishment.
The fear of punishment is not the driving force behind a good functional peaceful society.
I don't punish my OH, or elderly relatives and I can easily train a puppy without punishment.