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When I say 'no' DS cries - normal?

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Hobby2014 · 18/06/2015 16:46

DS is 10 months old and knows what 'no' means. He stops reaching for what ever it is, or climbing, or eating whatever he's found. But then instantly cries - proper scrunched up face but doesn't cry for long - a few seconds and stops. Almost fake/attention cries.
Is this normal? Should I console him? I say good boy or well done if he's listened to my 'no' but just not sure how to handle his tears.

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glowfrog · 18/06/2015 17:28

I think it's normal, or certainly nothing to worry about. Babies and toddlers can make what seems a big drama with tears etc and a few moments later be absolutely fine.

The fact it stops so fast suggests to me it's just a reaction. I think praising him for stopping is great and probably all you need to do.

I'm sure you have a good feeling for when your baby is genuinely upset and requires comforting.

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CunfuddledAlways · 18/06/2015 17:34

At this age when mine did this I felt like they where testing me-like if I cry maybe she will give in and give me it anyway, they soon grow out of it in my experience

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purplemurple1 · 18/06/2015 17:38

Mine did that too, shortly afterwards he learnt that even if I said no he could carry on. He understood the word but also that he had a choice.

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Mulligrubs · 18/06/2015 17:40

It is normal. They understand the word no but not always why you are saying no, sp get upset. My DS is 20 months (I think, I can't remember half the time Grin) now and still cries most of the time if I say no. I explain why I am saying it, although he doesn't always understand me I think it is a good habit. Then I give him a quick cuddle and that is that.

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NickyEds · 18/06/2015 20:35

At this age mine did that. Now he's 18 months he laughs when i say no. It's very irritating!

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PinkParsnips · 18/06/2015 21:24

Yes my 18 month old does this

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chutneypig · 18/06/2015 21:29

My DS was very much like that around that age. I remember him bursting into tears in the buggy at the park when a dog owner said no to her dog when the dog came near us. She was horrified that her dog had scared him and I had to explain it was the no not her dog.

He's still prone to sob when crossed now, at 8. And I still keep saying no. I'm hoping it will sink in by the time he hits his teens .

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Hobby2014 · 19/06/2015 09:57

Thanks everyone.
Glad it's not just him that does it. Just don't want to traumatise him with me saying no and him being upset, albeit fake upset. Rest assured i do console him when he's genuinely upset but don't really want to react to his reaction? Then hopefully he'll stop as he's realised it doesn't get him anything?
I'll look forward to the next few months when he starts laughing when I say no not . Grin

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