i dont know what to do anymore.i have posted a couple of times on sn and feeling depressed about my ds1(he will be 9 in january).he has always been whingy,all the time,nothing i have done has stopped him.he doesnt understand why sometimes things dont go his way or why he cant always have what he wants.even when i take him out somewhere he wants to go he always moans about something.he is currently undergoing assessment with a child psychologist,a couple of his taechers felt he may have a mild asd.other people think his behaviour may be due to his early childhood(his father was violent towards me and ds1 witnessed alot of stuff.i split with his father when ds1 was 3).i dont know i am just at the end of my tether with him.
ds2 is 3.3 and was a little angel till he turned 2.he started being 'boisterous',running off in public places and not listening to me.i put it down to him being a normal 2 year old with lots of energy,but although he's improved im still concerned about him.he still runs off when we are out and refuses to hold my hand.now he has started to whinge like ds1 does,and throw things in temper when he doesnt get his own way(ds1 sometimes behaves in an agressive way).ds2 just seems to have too much energy and is always bouncing around at the weekends when he hasnt been at nursery.yet at nursery he sits down when hes told and if they go for a walk he holds the teachers hand and doenst run off.dp says i am too soft on him and still treat him like a baby,that is why he does these things when hes with me.
i dont know what to do.i know ive gone wrong somewhere along the line with ds1 and i dont want ds2 having the same problems.
dd1 who is nearly 8,on the other hand,behaves very well apart from the odd pre-puberty strop etc,but nothing i wouldnt expect from a girl her age.
help???????sorry its so long but i just cant cope with weekends anymore.
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ds1 is whingy and aggressive and ds2 is starting to copy him
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divastrop · 12/11/2006 17:42
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