Just had a difficult bedtime with my DD1 and now I'm feeling like I have ready messed up.
Basically DD1 (5) still wears pull-ups at night. Not at all a problem for us, we have tried night training her but she has just not been ready, and her pull ups are still wet every morning. We were advised by HV to not worry until she is 6 or 7, so we are not at all bothered, and have tried not to make a big thing of it....
However, a couple of weeks ago, we noticed that DD2's (3) nappies were constantly dry in the morning, and a few times, she was waking up fussing to go for a wee. So, recognising that she was clearly ready, we took the plunge and started putting DD2 to bed pull-up free at the weekend. Three nights in, no accidents.
Obviously we praised DD2 for being a big girl and in turn she wanted to tell everybody that she didn't wear nappies anymore, both sets of grandparents, even the staff and her friends at nursery today!
But now, in the midst of it all, is DD1, feeling down about herself. Wanting to be like her younger sister, she asked to not wear great pull up Sunday night, but she wet the bed heavily, cue her three year old sister rubbing her victory in her face, and showing off her dry bed. Yesterday she said she wanted to sleep with no pull up again, but I could see she was getting anxious about it (she does have anxiety issues) so I reassured her that it's ok if she wants to go back to wearing pull ups, and she got out of bed after 10 minutes for a wee and asked for a pull up. This evening, DD2 was still enjoying her pull-up free bedtime, (and reminding the whole house about it) that DD1 again requested for no pull up. All seemed fine....
Until 15 minutes after lights out, DD1 comes downstairs in tears, very unsettled, saying that she is scared of going to sleep and wetting her bed. Again we assured her that she could have a pull up, but she kept saying that she wanted to be a big girl because DD2 was a big girl, and that DD2 had said she was a baby. I haven't seen her this upset in a while, she is now curled up with DH on the sofa because it was the only way to settle her.
I am really concerned that while we have spent the last couple of years trying not to make a big thing about it, by praising and rewarding DD2, we have just rubbed it in DD1s face a little, and now damaged her self esteem, but at the same time, I think it is important for us to celebrate DD2s achievement, to build her self esteem....so I feel like we were in a lose lose situation.
Now I am sat hear feeling like I have let DD1 down.
Has anyone had any experiences of younger DC being dry before older DC? Just wanted some advice as to where I can go from here to help DD1.
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Bedwetting anxiety with DD1 (5) and blaming myself
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LookingforRainbows · 26/05/2015 19:49
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