My ds is 5. He is number three of four and and out of the four he is the one that is different. The older two do lots of activities and clubs. They are both popular at school and do well academically and at sports. Ds is much quieter in nature. He is not as high energy and much more placid. He is also very contrary. It is almost if I ask him to do something he deliberately won't do it.
In the last 6 months I have tried to get him to have swimming lessons and join in another physical activity (he loves doing sports at home). It has been a complete nightmare. He started off in the swimming lessons just fine but when they moved him into the next group he has point blank refused to join in. The same has happened with the other activity. Up until today he was perfectly fine but we started off on a bad foot today and we have gone into the same mode as swimming. Firstly we were slightly late so I asked him to hurry up. He would not move any faster - he doesn't make a fuss, just doesn't do as you ask. Then he wanted a drink but he just held the bottle to his mouth and then when I took it away said he hadn't had any. Then he pretended he had something in his eye. All the while he is smirking at me as obviously I am getting annoyed with him. We ended up just going home. This will be a pattern now and it makes me weak.
We are at home now and I want to cry. I lost my temper with him and shouted at him on the way to the car. When we got in the car he told me it was because there was a new instructor. I have no idea now if these issues are anxiety related or whether they are his way of getting my attention. Either way I am failing him. I don't know what to do. Part of me thinks he looks at his older siblings and doesn't believe he is as good but I know that when he joins in activities he really enjoys himself and it boosts his confidence. I don't want to just stop doing them but I also can't face trying to cajole him into an activity every week.Help.
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hoolaloola · 12/05/2015 17:48
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